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| Quotes: The most powerful agent of growth and transformation is something much more basic than any technique: a change of heart. -- John Welwood Man needs, for his happiness, not only the enjoyment of this or that, but hope and enterprise and change. -- Bertrand Russell The purpose of quotes on this website is to provoke thought and may or may not be an endorsement of the person being quoted and his or her beliefs. |
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| Question of the month: What kind of desire or feeling hinders you the most from changing yourself or something in your life? a) fear (desire to avoid negative feelings/situations) b) depression (constantly feeling down & sad) c) apathy/laziness (lack of desire and passion to strive for something important and worthwhile) d) anger/disappointment (feeling of frustration because things don't go your way) e) ego (desire to feel good about yourself) f) other |
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| Reflection questions: 1) If most of our failure to change ourselves is largely influenced (or caused) by unhealthy desires and feelings that we have, how do you go about change - knowing it's not just about modifying your external conduct but having a change of heart? 2) Do you believe that you can really change the (negative, unhealthy) way that you desire and feel about things in life - even if it's pretty much the way you've been your entire life? 3) When you think of being happier in life, what kind of change do you think about the most? |
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| This month's topic is a continuation of last month's, why it's so hard to change. Lik-See, 02-17-05 I think we can remember times where we tried to change something in our lives, but often end up giving up and failing, without any noticeable improvement. Along the lines of what I shared last week, it seems the main hindrances are ingrained desires and feelings that resist against our efforts to change and better ourselves. Something in us 'surfaces' and says to stop or quit or give up or it's too difficult or you'll never make it or there's better things to do. Here are some examples: -You try to eat a healthy diet but the desire to stimulate yourself or relieve stress by eating a piece of fried chicken or apple pie is too huge; when depressed, "comfort" food (besides the fact that it tastes really good) seems to be a nice and quick way to cope with life and overcome the ho-hum lack of excitement in your all-too-routine day. -You can't stand your dead-end job and you want a new job or even a whole new career path but the desire to take it easy and not sweat at something is too huge to overcome; or you get so depressed doing your current job, it actually sucks the motivation and energy from you taking a risk and exerting yourself to find another job. -You want to have more quality relationships but the desire to avoid (=fear of) rejection and personal embarassment from others is too huge; so you don't put yourself out there in getting to know people, fearful that they won't accept you once they find out who you are - warts and all. It's just easier to sit in front of the artificial companionship of the T.V. set or computer, knowing it won't criticize or look down on you. -You want to explore and pursue something that's challenging yet worthwhile - whether it's a business venture or getting a certain degree in school - but the desire to avoid painful feelings of the past is too huge; you let yourself be swayed by things that happened a long time ago, bothered by your past failures and memories of people - even parents - discouraging and making fun of you for trying something new. "You'll never make it." "That was stupid of you to even try." |
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| A change worth having: always an uphill climb |
| You know it's really hard to change when: 1) You have the same New Year's resolution for the fifth straight year. 2) You have a hard time answering the question, "What's new with you?" at your high school reunion. 3) You forget what your New Year's resolution is by February and forget that you made one by summer. 4) People get bored hearing you share about what's been going on in your life. 5) You want to believe that the passage of time usually makes things better. |