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| Links: (websites I enjoy, nothing really to do with the monthly topics) http://www.howstuffworks.com/ This is an interesting website where you can have fun educating yourself�good website too if you have absolutely nothing to do but want to learn something useful. http://www.bahiker.com/ Excellent website about where to hike around the San Francisco Bay Area. Great description of trails and plenty of pictures. http://www.terragalleria.com This is an excellent website which has beautiful pictures of different places in the world. http://www.jatbar.com/ NEW! Runned by a few ordinary people like you and me, this well-organized website has several food reviews of Bay Area restaurants. Plenty of pictures too! Check it out if you want new ideas of where to go eat. |
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| Quotes: It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power. -- Alan Cohen It's not so much that we're afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it's that place in between that we fear . . . . It's like being between trapezes. It's Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There's nothing to hold on to. -- Marilyn Ferguson The purpose of quotes on this website is to provoke thought and may or may not be an endorsement of the person being quoted and his or her beliefs. |
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| Question of the month: What is your biggest obstacle to bringing about change in your life? a) I'm not motivated enough because I don't know what I really want that's worthy or worthwhile to pursue. b) I'm not motivated enough because I get depressed about life (the bad stuff) and it takes my energy away from trying anything worthwhile. c) I am generally fearful of going after something that I feel has a high chance of failure, often based on my past experience. d) I want to change but I get distracted and busy with other things. e) To be honest, I'm not sure I can truly change the things I really want or need to see changed. f) Except for a few minor things, I honestly don't care to change anything in my life. g) other |
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| Reflection questions: 1. Common thinking is to say that I can't change because that's who I am or that's the way I was born. What percent of the time do you believe that is the case in areas of your life that you want to see change? Is that thinking valid or helpful in those instances? 2. Do you find that the hardest things to change in your life are the very things that want to see changed the most? What area of your life do you want the most to be changed? It could be: personal character (moral, ethical), attitude & disposition; physical body & health; general circumstance & situation in life; job & career; reputation, namely what others think about you; relationships; daily lifestyle habits; material or monetary gain. |
| LSC's BASEMENT: Here's another personal quote of mine, which I call a "likseeism". The hardest challenge to doing the right thing is more about the will and strength to do it than just knowing it's the right thing to do. ANTI-PET PEEVES: For a growing list of things I really like, click here. ARCHIVES: for website topics from previous months, click here. General Note: just to let you know, I update this website with a new topic around the beginning of each month. |
| How are you doing so far in 2005? The first topic of the year is why it's so hard to change different areas of our lives, and ultimately ourselves, whether we are trying to shed unhealthy lifestyle habits, pursue and obtain personal goals, or even overcome destructive addictions. I'll share more thoughts on this topic next month too. Lik-See, 01-19-05 With consideration to the deep, complex dynamic of what goes on in our hearts when it comes to trying to change, I want to throw a few thoughts out there on maybe why it's so hard to change: -because there is a strong tendency to be lazy (especially after years of practice), i.e., to take the path of least resistance. It's always easier to be undisciplined and veg in front of the T.V. after work than go to the gym to work out or engage your mind in a good book. -because the desire for a comfortable, secure and painless way of life is huge and most change - at least that's worth going after - requires some effort and risk. It's a lot safer to avoid people and the possibility of rejection than trying to make new friends or pursue certain relationships. -because the desire to feel good about ourselves and have people believe we're "ok" often hinders going about change, which requires admitting and addressing a weakness or flaw or wrong. It's not to hard to convince ourselves and convey to people that we're doing fine, while secretly struggling with an addiction to alcohol (or drugs or pornography or T.V. or internet or whatever we may spend too much time with in order to cope with life). -because you know yourself and you don't think you can really change in things that really matter; to avoid feeling depressed and demoralized about failing, it's much easier to not even try changing. |
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