Okay, so as everyone is painfully aware, I hate relationships. Not just because of my experiences with them, but because of today's general ideas about them. We live in a society of fear; fear of death, fear of terrorists, fear of bacteria getting into our water, as well as a fear of being alone. I cannot say that I am free of fears. I am the most fearful person you will ever meet, but a lot of the time it is for different reasons. What is it about society that instills these inescapable fears in our heads and hearts? The fact that we are pounded with them every day. There is no escaping any of it. Now, with that said, I can actually get onto the rant.

Relationships,. Now, what does that word make you think of? Happiness, acceptance, love? Yes... it does, and other fluffy, happy feelings that everyone longs for. And when I say 'everyone', I mean it. It has recently been brought to my attention that no matter how hard you try to not let it bother you and eat away at your being, it does. But WHY?! What makes it so absolutely imperative to have? It's like a possession. Today's ideas behind relationships are ridiculous. You NEED to be in a relationship to be a whole person. If you are not, then you are unhappy. That shouldn't be how things are... Is there anyone else out there who believes that this is false?! Why must you depend on this to be whole? You shouldn't have to, by any means! But society drills this into your head. "It is not alright to be single. You must be committed to someone. You are to get married, and be connected with someone for the rest of your lives." Lovely. I mean, I too would love to get married... I really would, but it's doubtful, because I am too scared. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Why is that, do you think? Oh yeah. Because society has this belief that you MUST get married to the one you "love." Well, that makes everyone scared, so they run around trying to find the one they are allegedly in 'love' with, to get married, then after living together and being in close quarters with this person, they are aware of their beliefs, ideas and other such things. They then realize that they don't actually love this person, and get a divorce. It was a mere infatuation, which they believed to be love.

Here's my proof with this... I am going to change this person's name to protect her and her family's identity. Let's say... Bertha. Okay, so Bertha's parents recently separated, around six months ago. No divorce as of yet. The parents found new houses, but are trying to rid themselves of the one they already have, so they still technically live there. Bertha's parents have already found new people to be with, and try stuff with. Who knows whether it is purely sexual or not... They bring these people to the house, in which the entire family is still residing. "I want you to meet Joe. He is very special to me." "I want you to meet Beatrice. She is very special to me." Ummm... Is it just me, or does this not sound right to you either? Okay, so the marriage wasn't working out, and you decided to separate, and probably will get a divorce in the future... But why can't you allow yourself to get over it, without diving head first into another relationship? Why can there be no personal down time? This shows really clearly the belief that one must be in a relationship... It's ridiculous.

Relationships nowadays mean NOTHING. Well, okay, so some still keep those old fashioned belief systems where you say what you mean to the person for emotional satisfaction and because YOU MEAN IT. Most relationships are based on false pretences. "Ohh, I love you. Umm, can we have sex?". It sickens me, to no end. They mean nothing. They are purely sexual, now. There is no common courtesy, and no common ground. People are hooking up primarily based on physical features. I'm sorry, but it takes me a while to get to know someone well enough that I would be secure in a relationship with them. But by that time, it is too late... "Oh, we are too good of friends to date. We would mess up our friendship." Umm, no we wouldn't. Your significant other is like a best friend, when sticking to the old belief system, and not just the ideals of society. They are someone you can trust, and depend on to be there for you no matter what, and so, are good friends. Obviously I am drawing a parallel between the two, not suggesting that they are the same things. They are different kinds of relationships. It just makes me so angry that something that is supposed to mean so much means nothing, now. Or, it does mean something... it means, "SEX, SEX, SEX." "Yippy, I am in a relationship, so I get as much as I want..." That should NOT be the basis of it at all! God damn it! Why does no one understand anymore?! Kids are getting involved in relationships at a young age, believing that they are purely just sexual. I'm sorry, but when you are thirteen years old, you should be learning about sex, not having it with your boyfriends/girlfriends... Thirteen years old is too young, in my eyes. This makes me sound really bad, but it's true. Go take a poll of the grade nines.

Okay, so after I have made myself sound like a ridiculous and hypocritical person, I would just like for you to understand that this rant is not about how much I hate "relationships." It is about how much I hate the ideas that society has placed behind them. You do not need a relationship to be happy, but everyone believes otherwise, and I am not entirely innocent either. This is difficult, because either way I say it, it makes me sound like a hypocrite. I'm really not. I just believe that relationships should be based on love, and not physical attraction, and that it is alright to be single. Do you need to be in a relationship to be happy? Apparently, you really, really do...