June 24, 2003
So can we do it.... Can we all stay single this summer..... always the questions a bunch of guys ponder...or should I say, a bunch of single guys ponder.... How to spend the freedom of the summertime better than being free of obligations, guilt, and hassle... did that just equate to not being single?
So give me 3 months to myself and ask if I would pursue anything (anyone) if they happened to come along... No! I tell myself... for now, at least. Through all the thick exterior, through all the macho pride and the muscles built up of from hours of dedication at the gym... we are emotional wimps. We... maybe I. Too easily caught, too easily swayed, too easily lost. How do you make that distinction between lust and love. I would like to say that all men can just hit it up for that one night, or two, or twenty.... and just not care... but back to that wimp thing... As age goes on, when two people of the opposite sex get together, don't they instinctively take out their mental clipboards and start to rate the other for a potential........ Now keep in mind that clipboards differ from people to people with different criteria.... but sometimes with the same intent.. A relationship with someone on any level is still a relationship, it's just a matter of degree.
Where is that line drawn when it begins to slip the ideal from friend to lover. Days younger, this distinction was fuzzy. You spent time with someone. Great! You find that connection and you think that there is something there. There is room for development to a.....relationship. Is that where it is to lead... that when two people get along that well they should just automatically hook up. Days older, through failed friendships turned into failed relationships, the line is draw. Pretty damn high at that. You start to see the relationships at hand and take them for what they are and nothing more. Being picky is sometime not all about the degree of that bar that is set.... it's just about taking what fits into your life and accepting it. Ultimately at the end, what is more important... a undoubtable friend or a maybe lover....
Give me 3 months.....