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By Jennifer Oliver
"Mrs.
Oliver," he said, tapping the screen of the ultrasound monitor.
"Here's the problem."
And there he was,
staring back at me with big blank eyes, his heart fluttering.
"Say hello to
your baby, Momma!" my doctor said, grinning.
My mouth gaping,
all I could do was wave weakly at this marvel floating inside of me. The
nurse and I exchanged tearyeyed glances.
After six
heartbreaking years of infertility, this day was finally here with the
help of prayers and modern medicine. Because of longstanding female
problems where I missed cycles for several months at a time, I had failed
to notice the obvious signs of pregnancy.
I was nearly 12
weeks along.
The week before
Christmas, severe spasms shot up my back, which I would later find out to
be back labor pains. Dismissing the pain for a normal side effect of
pregnancy, I draped a heating pad over my side. The pain receded, then
flared up periodically, interrupting my sleep.
Finally it was at
two in the morning when during a trip to the bathroom, I stood up from the
toilet and found to my horror blood trickling down my legs. I frantically
shook Stephen awake and showed him the blood all over the bathroom floor.
At the hospital,
Stephen selected the one wheelchair out of the whole crew with a broken
wheel and began pushing me with some effort to the emergency room. I
hadn't felt the baby move in a while.
The ultrasound
relieved my gnawing fear. The baby was fine. No one offered a reason for
the premature labor.
They parked me in a
room alone with an IV dispensing medication to slow down the contractions.
I was dilated at four centimeters.
"Mr. Oliver,
your wife will be here for a while," the doctor said. "Go home
and get some rest. Once she's stabilized, we'll move her to the
sixth floor."
With that
reassurance, Stephen wearily kissed me and left. I settled into my new
environment, the situation not quite sinking in. Throughout the night, my
sleep was interrupted by the sounds of women giving birth in the room next
to mine. And the applause and cheers that followed each birth.
I hungered to see
one baby, just one baby. Perhaps as a sign that everything would bode well
for us. I continued to feel severe contractions every hour in spite of the
medication.
When my
obstetrician examined me the following morning, she remarked with sadness,
"Oh, bless your heart. I can feel his foot."
His foot was lodged
in the neck of the cervix. A breech baby.
Late that
afternoon, I was on the phone chatting long-distance with my sister, when
--
"Uh,
nurse," I called out. "My water just broke."
Suddenly everyone
sprang into action.
"Gotta go,
Beth," I said to my sister and hung up.
I tried desperately to dial my home number, forgetting that it was
considered long-distance.
"I need to
call my husband!" I cried, as they swarmed around me.
"No time for
that, Mrs. Oliver," someone shouted.
I was quickly
wheeled into Labor and Delivery, where I delivered via C-section under
general anesthesia. While coming out of labor, I whispered groggily,
"Is my baby alive?"
"Yes, Mrs.
Oliver. You have a boy!"
"His
name," I said, before passing out again, "is Cody Travis."
"Beautiful
name, Mrs. Oliver! Beautiful name."
Waking up, I found
myself alone between drawn curtains. On the other side of the curtain were
excited chatter and laughter. Judging from the joyous sounds, it was
family and friends celebrating the arrival of a new life in their circle.
Finding that I was fully awake, the attendants pushed aside the curtain
and began to wheel me out. As they did, I passed the visitors,
whose chatter died instantly. The center of attention, a mother
cuddling her newborn, looked apologetic.
"Congratulations,"
I croaked.
No one stirred nor
smiled. Their pity burned in my heart all the way to my room.
It was morning, and
I was told to make my first step out of the bed. After a classic Csection,
that was asking quite a bit. It was the vertical kind that sliced into
some serious muscle. Somehow I managed to get my feet flat on the
floor and shuffle across the room.
I need to see my
son, I thought. I need to get better and see him.
And still, there
was no sign of Stephen. I
didn't want to face our son alone until my husband was there by my side.
Since we lived out in the country, I couldn't dial longdistance, and no
one was willing to help me make that one important call. When I tried to
call collect, I would be greeted by the answering machine and disconnected
automatically. I drifted in and out
of drugged sleep.
I was given a sponge bath just
before lunch and fainted.
"Congratulations, Mrs.
Oliver!" the nurse laughed. "You just earned yourself an Oscar
for that performance!"
Lunch came and
went.
Still no Stephen.
No phone call.
Dinner came and
went.
The phone rang. It
was after five.
"Hey!"
Stephen said. "I guess they've stabilized you after all!"
"Uh, no,
sweetie."
"What do you
mean? Haven't they stopped your contractions? They said you're on the
sixth floor now --"
"Stephen,"
I interrupted. "You have a son."
After a moment of
stunned silence, the news sunk in.
"Oh, dear
God," he said, his voice breaking. "Oh, hon, I'm so sorry.
Here I was up all night working on a surprise for you, and oh my..."
My heart melted
with the burden he felt, missing the birth of his first child.
An hour later he
burst through the door, bearing an armload of gifts. Slippers and
books for me, toys for the baby. One of them an antique slingshot he had
bought as a surprise for the big day.
We scrubbed our
hands, donned gowns, then stepped into a world that would mark us forever.
And there he was.
At station number two was our son asleep on his back, a tiny cap pulled
over his patched eyes. We watched his chest rise and fall rapidly. Wires
snaked all over him, attached to LEDs that recorded his body's activities.
Stephen lifted the
saran wrap that stretched across the bed warmer, and we took turns cupping
Cody's head as instructed by the nurse. Stephen gingerly placed the
slingshot inside of it.
The blue sign above
our baby's head boasted, "Cody Travis Oliver. 1 lb, 6 oz."
Someone once said
that life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the
moments that take our breath away.
This was such a moment.