Folks,
Author Roger Dean Kiser, Sr., is one
of my heroes, who is using his life as a former orphan to grant kindness
to orphans coast to coast!
Mr. Kiser has set up the Sad
Orphan Foundation to
do just that. I am passing this on strictly as a means to spread the
word about Mr. Kiser's dream that all children be given the childhood --
and future -- of
their dreams.
To give you an idea of how this idea
transpired - here is an excerpt from Mr. Kiser:
"Each year this
organization of men came to the Children's Home Society Orphanage. All the
boys and girls would get two dollars each to buy a Christmas gift.
The men would take us in groups of five to downtown Jacksonville, Florida,
to do our Christmas shopping. I remember going with this one gentleman,
three years in a row. He would take us shopping; then he would ask us if
we wanted to go to the movies. I remember watching him really closely when
we got to the theater. I watched him as he pulled out his wallet to pay
for our tickets. He looked over at me and just smiled with his great big
smile.
During the movie he bought us all the popcorn and candy that we wanted. I
remember thinking how wonderful it was that someone would spend their own
money on someone like us.
We all laughed at the funny movie and had a really good time. The man
would laugh really hard and then he would pat me on top of the head. Then
he would laugh really hard again and reach over and rustle my hair. I
would just look at him, and he would just keep smiling with his great big
wonderful smile. That trip to the movies was the first time in my life
that I ever felt as if someone really cared about me.
It was a wonderful, wonderful feeling which I have never forgotten, even
to this day, fifty years later. I had never felt anything like that in my
entire life. It was not 'love' that saved me that day. It was strictly the
"kindness" that was shown to us by a strange man. An unknown
feeling to me, yet it allowed me feel equal and to know, for the first
time in my life, that I had a value and a worth."
Here is more information on the
foundation itself:
The Sad Orphan Foundation
has been established to specifically help orphans in the United States of
America.
The intent of this organization is to make sure that a minimum of 90-95%
of all the donations received go directly to the children. Not to groups,
organizations and/or societies who tend to pay themselves large salaries
and in the end leave the kids getting little or nothing.
The foundations books will be available on the internet 24/7. All
transactions will be posted on this web site (In simple plain English) for
everyone to view.
I am not exactly sure what all "The Sad Orphan Foundation" can
accomplish. It is not easy, trying to establish such an organization and
to find honest, capable people who are willing to give that much of their
time. Oh! there are those who are willing to help if it makes them look
like a big shot in the community. I don't need, or want people like that
in this organization.
The kids that I am trying to help did not do anything wrong. They are
innocent children who were abandoned or mistreated by their parents.
What I plan to do for these children may not have much of an affect right
now. But in the years to come they will remember the kindness that was
showed to them. I know this for a fact.
Common sense tells us that we never harm those who are kind to us.
Kindness is the only path leading into the heart of the orphan, or abused
child. It is then, and only then, that we can start to build a lasting
relationship based on love and trust.
I will be there, myself, I will be the one who tells them that it is
"you" who have helped them. That you do care about what happens
to them.
The money given to this foundation will not be wasted. Not one single
penny. There will be no fancy envelopes or stationary. These items, if
necessary, will be purchased from the dollar store. Should the time come
that the organization grows and needs any type of paid help. The president
of the company down to the last man on the totem pole will receive a
minimum wage. There will be no bonuses for anyone, ever.
I will not spend one penny on anything that the orphanage itself should
have purchased for the children. If by chance, these children are taken to
Disney World, Universal Studios, a water slide, movie or the like. I, as
the President of the foundation, will make sure that the lowest possible
fare(s) have been achieved.
Have you have ever wondered why a young person goes off the deep end and
hurts others. I can tell you the reason because I have been there. When
all has failed in a child's life and they feel that they have nothing to
lose. The next thought is to hurt someone or to get even with the world.
At this point they do not need 'a reason to do it because they feel that
they already have one. Now their mind searches for a reason not to do it.
This is the critical point in the process of decision. 'Love' at this
point is totally worthless to that child. However, kindness always seems
to shine through and gives the child 'a reason' not to hurt someone.
The brilliant minds of yesterday, as well as all the educated scholars of
today have had their chance and they have failed. It is time for a new
approach. It is time to allow some of us who have ridden on the train of
despair to have a chance to stop it.
The Sad Orphan Foundation will never be allowed to become more important
than it's purpose. It does not take a million dollars to save a child. It
might be a watch, a notebook or even a movie, if given at the right time.
"Kindness" is the foundation for raising a good child, when love
is no where to be found.
The Sad Orphan Foundation (Orphan Outreach Fund) was organized on the
first day of January 2002.
The sole purpose of the foundation is to help children who are orphans
(parents or not) who are now residing in orphanages (children's homes)
within the United States of America. The Orphan Outreach Programs purpose
is to try and remove the child's feeling of being totally incarcerated
while living in these types of institutions.
It is not the purpose of our foundation to try and clothe, feed or house
these children. That is already being taken care of by various other
agencies. The main purpose of the foundation is to try and establish a
program called "e-doptions." This will allow older orphan
children, who would not ordinarily be adopted, to have contact with stable
families on the outside.
It is our intent to try and supply a computer(s) to these children so that
they will have contact with friends and/or families who live outside the
orphanage perimeter.
Each orphan child would eventually start receiving letters, e-mail, monies
and gifts from a family. Hopefully in time they would feel that they had
become somewhat a part of a normal family structure.
The purpose of this is to try and give the child a sense of family rather
than just being a part of a gang or a herd. It is very important that the
child (when someday leaving the orphanage) have a sense of direction and
belonging. That they have the feeling of having been a part of something
good and kind. Other than just a prison style environment.
When these children grow up and are cast out of the orphanage they will no
longer have a home. The orphanage will now be no more to them than the
local seven-eleven store down on the corner. They will now truly be
homeless. Having been locked up for years, though educated and treated
kindly, there will be no love or happiness, stored in their memories.
There will be no loving experiences for these kids to look back upon, as
far as a stable home with a mother and a father is concerned. Just the
thought of having been treated ok and kept locked away from the rest of
the world, as if they were nothing more than common criminals.
Orphans need a space somewhere on this earth that they can consider a
home, even though they may never have actually lived there. They certainly
can not take their children, or grandchildren back to the orphanage for
Thanksgiving or Christmas.
The day will come when they are going to need a place (from their past) to
take their children, or their grandchildren for the holidays. The
orphanage will no longer be there for them.
We need to start building that "place", that "space",
that "home", that "past", those memories, right now.
Orphans need to start forming some good and loving memories that will be
remembered by them in the future. That is going to be the foundation upon
which their future is going to be built.
If we do not change the system, now in place, then these children's
foundations are going to be built strictly upon their years of
incarceration, upon their sadness and upon their loneliness. When they
reach adulthood they will remember their prison style home. A home that
may have very well have fed, clothed, housed and educated them in a very
good manner.
Nevertheless, the day will come when they will realize that the orphanage
was nothing more than a prison built for unwanted children.
If we do not break this cycle right now those repetitive hours, days,
weeks, months and years that all orphans suffer are going to come back to
haunt us.
Oh! How much it meant to me, when I left the orphanage many years ago to
have a faint light off in the distance. To have had someone who cared if I
lived or died. Someone who cared about who or what I was going to become
someday. In all my loneliness it was that small beacon of light that
somewhat directed me until I became stable enough to understand the rules
that I was expected to abide by as a decent member of society.
It was not love that saved me. It was the kindness of just a few wonderful
people. People who truly cared for me and expected nothing in return,
except to give me a better future and a real chance at life.
Orphan, Roger Dean Kiser, Author
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THE SAD ORPHAN FOUNDATION
c/o Author, Roger Dean Kiser, Sr.
100 Northridge Drive
Brunswick, Georgia 31525
THANK YOU,
Author, Roger Dean Kiser, Sr.
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