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Hug: Male & Female

So long as the human race survives the balance will always remain in the centre; irrespective of the fact that in the Dance-Sport the man should always lead and a lady should always follow.

The human male and the human female exert equal pressures for the balance-of-life to be in equilibrium, however they are at the opposite ends. When the lever connecting the two is realised, its marriage. When the fulcrum on which the lever rests, is realised it's the parenthood, and when the base on which the balance stands, is realised it's being in harmony with nature.

Part 1
Before we proceed any further one thing needs the primary clarification that there is a large difference between the human male and the human female. It is similar to the two rails of a single conventional railway track that can never meet, at least in a lifetime. The two rails run parallel to each other and they seem to meet at the horizon, probably this happens after death. Each rail is linked by a number of sleepers, highlighting the interdependency for the track to sustain. In almost all the cultures the marriage is one of the most expensive events as it celebrates the manifestation of this particular and sacred interdependency.

From the very early childhood the difference in sexes is realised and the separation of the two sexes gets under way. Females tend to group up and like wise the males have their own separate groups. They do not compete with each other, but at the same time they do not come together either, even if sexual need is not the subject.

However the interdependency is realised all the same. This leads to seeking of knowledge and enlightenment from within the group, which leads to a lot of postulations of the other group. The result is the forever-widening chasm between the two sexes with the passing of time.

The sad part is that the realisation of the equality to many comes much later even after the sacred and most celebrated ceremony called as the marriage. Yet the very best part is that one has to go ones own way irrespective of anything but with a subtle understanding and acceptance of the equality of the two sexes and the interdependency factor.

This is the dictate of the nature. By nature for the success of a particular species, certain qualities are essential. The better the qualities the better are the chances of survival. However developing all these qualities by a single person is putting too much of a burden. Thus the reason for the two sexes with almost equally divided qualities. Thus each sex is responsible to develop the smaller portion of it's qualities to it's maximum. This requires the necessity to work independently, thus the difference in the sexual maturity time. But the two sexes have to be united, thus is the strong and almost uncontrollable sexual surge, if the marriage/wedding is not solemnised.

Nothing is wrong about this. But we fail to understand that there is a person of the opposite sex as well, who is responsible to take care of the other duties. This results in our trying unnecessarily to perfect all the qualities instead.

This problem arises due to the hug being neglected between the opposite sexes. Nature has been very explicit in telling one what the responsibilities are for a particular person. Here is where the culture and traditions come in to be the "middleman" to help out, which needs to be understood as to the correct depths, as the interpreter for the overwhelming and awe inspiring Mother Nature.

Part 2
The human body is not a special purpose machine. It is instead a general-purpose machine, which is required to perform a number of duties with the same parts and movements. The fear of being unable to interpret the difference between just nothing, sensuality and sexuality creates the fear of a hug between two people of different sexes.

Part 3
With the growing up and the need to succeed and progress as an individual, a lot many emotional problems keep piling on as the emotional blocks. An instant release from these small but continuously pricking thorns becomes a priority. Which does Mother Nature give in the form of a sexual climax, which although temporary, seems to be the only way out? So the tendency is to see any thing in part or whole that can lead to a "climax" as the path to drain off ones pricking emotions to whatever extent possible. This again widens the rift between two people of different sexes.

Part 4
It is an unwritten understanding that sex or the union of two opposite sexes is a very sacred ritual and every one tend to work towards the ideal of the Master and Slave philosophy.

This philosophy of Master and Slave is that each individual is one's own master and a slave at the same instant of time. Which simply means that one is going to go about a task for one's own very selfish motives; but the underlying fact is that one is a slave at the same time to cater to a partner. The whole process is such that one is literally going to exploit the other till the extreme boundaries. This is achieved in such a manner that both retain ones own identity, self-esteem, individuality and pride, not only before, during, or after an activity; but instead also have the additional feeling of satisfaction of a successful accomplishment. This is same as deriving pleasures irrespective of anything else but with the subtle understanding and above all the respect of the interdependency and a strong desire to progress.

This calls for the scaled down models to hone ones skills. The fear is the getting involved in the model that could mean stagnation and frustration in due course of time.

This is similar to travelling on a particular road, but at the same time keeping a tab on the conditions of the other roads too, without travelling on it. This keeping a tab is to get a little more experienced to travel more confidently on one's own path.

Keeping such a discipline is what is doubted and this again results in the misunderstanding between the sexes. And as a result a hug between two people of the opposite sexes is rejected outright without any further considerations or a second thought.

To put all of above, the idea of "Master and Slave" in plain word in respect of sex, is a small example.

The first time is curiosity, the next time it's to help a partner, still later is when one need the benefits, and so on. But still later comes a time when the whole exercise is transformed to a sacred ritual. This is when the philosophy of Master and Slave come into play, when both the partners are enlightened.

This process of enlightenment takes a lot of time and effort, in a dynamic environment, when people age, tastes keep changing, moods vary, and the pressures of sustenance of life keep changing with time. In such fleeting moments, and when life is so short the single partner is equated with a single path to cover longer distances. Thus the fear of getting diverted from such a path is a inner feeling in every person, which makes one over cautious and there by paving the way for a bigger chasm than the one already created by Nature, between two people of the opposite sex.