I saw him in hospital when he was still out, I told him I loved him. But it wasn't quite the same. I've been told people can hear when unconscious, and perhaps they can, but I wanted him to hear it when he was awake. Luckily for my family, he did pull through (the first thing I told him when he woke up was "I love you"). And the whole situation taught me something important.
Just don't always think "they know, I don't need to say it." They do know, but sometimes the words need to be said. And you just don't know if you'll ever get another chance. Sometimes, you just might not. And you'll regret it always if you never do. I was lucky...I got a second chance. So many people don't, and they carry that for years. It doesn't take much to say it. It's a very important three words, and it can make someone's day to know that they are loved and that someone is always thinking of them.
Just don't leave it too late to tell your family members and friends "I love you."
There are so many women that stay with men that beat them. And I'd like to know WHY. The regular answers are "but I love him". Umm..HELLO? How can you love someone who beats you? How can you love someone you fear? How on earth can you live that way?
There have been cases of women who have recieved numerous beatings and stayed with their partners. Sometimes, they ended up dead. Now, I don't know about you, but ONCE is too many times for me. Once is all it would take to get myself out of that sitaution. There are a lot of things I can forgive, but abuse isn't one of them. There is no excuse for someone treating you in this way. It doesn't matter if the offender is drunk or stoned or whatever. Once is all it takes to start a pattern. And if it happens once, it will most likely happen again and again.
I understand that some women stay because they have been told over and over that they are worthless, no other man would want them, etc, etc. They have no self-confidence left. And that's all part of the offenders master plan. To chip away at confidence, make the victim believe that they are worthless. That way, the logical thinking is that they will stay where they are, rather than risk being alone.
Now, I have an abundance of confidence. But I have also never had someone endlessly telling me I am useless. But, even if I did, I can't see myself giving a damn. I know what I am, what I am worth, and that won't change in my mind. If someone told me such, I would shrug and ignore it, or say something nasty in return. Most likely, the latter.
I will never allow myself to be in a situation where I am frightened of the man I supposedly love. I can't live life like that. I refuse to allow myself to be controlled in this way. And neither should anyone else. Think about it this way...if someone loves you, doesn't that mean they support you, encourage you, rather than belittle and hurt you? Would you do the same? Everyone has worth. No one is useless. Everyone has some sort of skills. You just have to believe that, and not believe some asshole who's telling you different.
And think about this...do you want to be just another statistic?
"End of the Innocence".