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The two of us have been as committed as we get for the past several years.
We've finally decided to let you all in on it!
The purpose of this ceremony is to make the commitment between us symbolic of the commitment of a community
to all its members. To that end, we're asking all of you to be present spiritually and emotionally,
be open to each other, and bring your unique voice to this precious group of people.
Invitations
We have limited our list of guests for this ceremony. The invitations mailed to the ceremony invitees will contain
an extra piece.
Clothing
Matt and Sarah will be in semi-formal attire. Please wear clothing comfortable for the outdoors, and comfortable for you!
To Bring Along
Yourself, mainly. If you wish, please bring a strip of cloth (14" min) which represents something important to you.
We will give everyone the opportunity to add this bond to the others around our hands. We will have ribbons and permanent
markers available at the ceremony if you wish to write a message.
Cast of Characters
- Our Director, Sarah Krom, will lead the group through this ceremony.
- Our Gatekeepers, Anne Marie Boles and Tom Priestly, will assist her.
- Special contributions from Barb and Dennis Hoover, Nancy Korda, and Randy Korda.
Ceremony in Brief
- Introductions all around
- Special contributions
- More or less traditional Handfasting. Each bond tying our hands together will be symbolic of the following questions:
- Red: Do you respect each other, appreciating the gifts of the other, honoring that which the other holds dear?
- Blue: Do you accept the changes life brings to you with grace and humility, seeking always to understand and speak the truth between you?
- Purple: Do you love each other spiritually, sensually, passionately; with all of your heart, body, mind, and soul?
- Black: When you fail in these things, when you are ungrateful, unkind, thoughtless, prideful, distant, or despairing, do you forgive yourself and your partner, seeking to repair the loss with respect, honesty and love?
- Next, she will invite everyone to reflect on these things, and from their own experience and wisdom share any thoughts they have. (This is a Quaker tradition.)
Everyone is also invited to add a bond to those already around our hands, symbolizing their commitment to all of us.
- After all the bonds are added, representatives of our friends & family will take hold of us and attempt to separate us. If they are unsuccessful it's a good sign!
- A document pledging support to this community through Sarah & Matt will be available for anyone who feels comfortable to sign.
- A light repast (provided by Nancy Korda of traditional foods & beverages)will be provided before we all head to the reception for more substantial food--and a great party.
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