Therefore, there is no situation that would cause grief to a believer, or cause his distress, because he has grasped this secret and attained pure faith.
A person commits suicide or murder because the person he loves has left him, or conditions do not permit their being together; another injures himself when the person he loves shows no interest in him, someone else develops acrimony towards someone who has managed to get the attention of the one whom he liked on account of his looks or intelligence or economic well-being, others, while away their time in 'Dard bhare' songs unmindful of the task at hand (especially, academics). These are the kinds of behaviour seen time after time on television, and in the newspapers. These are classic examples of perversity. These silly people do not understand that there are atleast 3 billion others to choose from. Those who become desolate because they are in any way inferior to their more blessed friends or relatives, betray a lack of faith in the justness of the almighty & the apparent lack of clear belief in the concept of Taqdir & the law of requital. Moreover it gives a fillip to one-upmanship & arrogance, which turns a healthy competition into a rivalry for obvious reasons. It should be noted that unlike in films where most of the friends of the lead player are happy that he has managed to get the affection of the person whom he liked & infact help in securing the object of affection for their friend. This isn't always true in real life where one might unwittingly antagonize one of his better pals who also wished for the same person. Trying to impress the opposite gender often entails lowering of ones self-respect by silly theatrics & pretentious ostentations.
This kind of romantic attraction has become acceptable in society as completely "innocent," as "mere romance" and as "true feelings;" it is even praised and encouraged. Often it is only much later that we realize that that which was considered a victory of winning over the beloved was a perfect recipe for life long agonies, frustration & an endless stream of "ifs & buts" that would be hard to resolve. The satan very subtly seeks to imbibe such false ideas in the masses, which indirectly accounts for the ever increasing craze for beautification. A famous author had very rightly said that romance starts with a glance, proceeds with a smile, followed by a seemingly platonic co-operation in the field of work, then close friendship, which might ultimately transform into affection. Generally speaking, why don't people fall in love with an ugly person even if he/she is otherwise compatible? This is not to say that we should not communicate with a person of the opposite gender at all, on the contrary, considering the fact that we would be compelled to associate, in every sphere of work, we shouldn't be hesitant in this regard, we should rather be extroverted, positive & co-operative. But at the same time we should also be mindful of our cultural demarcations.
To mankind the love of worldly appetites is painted in glowing colours: women and children, and heaped-up mounds of gold and silver, and horses with fine markings, and livestock and fertile farmland. All that is merely the enjoyment of the life of the world. The best homecoming is in the presence of God. (Qur'an, 3:14)
Some people set up equals to God, loving them as they should love God. But those who believe have greater love for God. If only you could see those who do wrong at the time when they see the punishment, and that truly all strength belongs to God, and that God is severe in punishment. (Qur'an, 2:165) contd.......