Telling others that you've decided to date a ts girl
So you've met someone that you really care for, and you've gotten involved in a relationship with her, right on.
Now you have to decide who needs to know that she is a ts girl, and how to tell them easily...
Well, first off, I hate to burst your bubble but there truly is no easy way to tell people something when you don't know
how they will react to it. The only way to find out is to tell them, so you're in a bit of a spot there. Usually you can figure
out how somebody feels about something by bringing the topic up for discussion and listening to their remarks,
that's the way I do it - if they react poorly when you bring it up, then don't tell them. If they react well (intelligent
questions, they speak respectfully, etc.), then you might want to consider telling them about your decision. It's
always nice to have friends that you can speak with about anything, and there is also your family (that can be fun...).
Remember, you are under no obligation to tell anyone you don't want to that she's ts, it's entirely up to you who
you want to speak with about this.
When it comes to family, you should already have a pretty good idea how they will react to most things, and
(if you've done what I said above) you should know how they feel about the subject of transexuality in general.
Once you have this information, then you have to decide if, how and when you will tell them. The most "painless"
way would be to tell them via E-mail or something like that, but it's also the least effective way. If you tell someone
something like this via E-mail, then they can't ask you any questions about it easily, and therefore you can't
help to clear up any confusion on their part.
That last part is one of the most important points in the paragraph, as many people are confused about what it means
to be involved with a ts girl, as quite a few people have a problem understanding that she is just like any other
woman in the ways that are most important. The best way to tell someone about your decision is in person,
perhaps over coffee or something, that way they will feel more comfortable (that can make all the difference
in the world at times...). I know it's not the easiest way by any means, but it is the best as far as I'm concerned.
Personally, I told my parents about Katie over the telephone, but that's because we are quite a drive from each other
(they're in Sarnia, I'm on the north end of the Bruce Peninsula in Ontario). I was very impressed with their
reactions to what I had to say, just as I figured they would be. I had already had both of my parents in a multi-user
chat session on Yahoo with Katie and one of her friends (I believe her name was Denise), and that had gone very
well, I've also dragged my dad into TSGchat more then once. So I was pretty sure about how they feel on the subject.
What it simply comes down to is what you think they need to know, and how you want to tell them. Like I said
earlier on this page, you are not obligated to tell everyone that your new girlfriend is ts, but it can make life easier
if you have a few friends that you can talk openly with about [pretty much] anything. If your friends are true friends,
they will accept her without hesitation, and they will be happy because you are happy. That's all that should
really matter in the first place, as far as I'm concerned.
Everybody's situation is different, so I know that I can't provide the best advise for everyone, all that I can
do is relay my own experience here and hope that it will help some people figure things out. I suppose that
will conclude this page for now, but I'll probably be adding to it in the future.
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