ADVICE ANYTHING GOES
Also, your boyfriend needs to learn to not argue with his mom when she tells him no. Even though he may not understand or agree with her reasoning, she is still his mother and he should respect her. I seriously doubt that her actual reason is the "age thing". Given the ages of both of you, I mean, It is hard to find someone who has the same birthday as you and fall in love with them too.
After a while, though, she may realize that her son is happy, and she should let him be.
You may want to put yourself in her shoes. She sees her baby boy growing up right before her very eyes and she doesn't want him to; no mother does. Just take it easy, and don't try to defy her decisions. It may be hard, but she IS an athority figure, and you need to respect her.
Let me know how things work out.
~Jenni
Hey, I've got a problem with my boyfriend's mom. Everytime I turn around..she's grounding him. He can look at me wrong and she'll ground him. And if I invite him over for a little while...she'll say no because his house isn't clean or something like that. So he'll go and do what she says and she'll say know because he doesn't belong at my house because "I'm too young for him". If you want to be exact...we're 1 year, 1 month, and 5 days apart. I'm a freshman and he's a Sophmore. She acts like she doesn't like me and is saying a lot of bad things about me. Do you think she's just wanting me and my "lover" to break up? What do you think WE (me and my boyfriend) should do?
Sincerely,
Lost and confused
It seems very common for people to have difficulties with their boyfriend/girlfriend's parents. Sometimes, though, parents can be right about things. I know that it can be hard to admit that your mom may not be as dumb as you think.
As for what to do about your boyfriend's mom, be nice to her. When you see her, make a point to be extra cautious not to offend her in any way. Make sure it is genuine, if you act too fakey, she'll see right through you. You don't want her to think you are putting on an act.
I have had much experiance with trying to make a good impression on the boyfriend's family. My Jimmy comes from an Irish-Catholic family and he has more relatives than he can count. Being his serious girlfriend, I had to meet every one of them, and every time I met someone new, I tried my best to make a good first impression. I still have yet to meet EVERY BODY, but hopefully there will be plenty enough time for that in the future.