Dating Advice

It is often rather difficult to talk to a woman that you just met. So what do you say? Remember, you are trying to date her.

Well, it is best to let them do much of the talking. They will anyway, but you can get them to tell you things that will help you reach your goal, whatever that may be; from touching her sternum with your nose to exchanging body fluids.

Think of the word FORM, it's a special keyword on dating. Use this word to remind you of what to ask the woman who is the current object of your little friend’s desires.

The F stands for Family, not for F_ _ _, as you may have thought. Ask the Queen of your Night where her family lives. Does she come from a broken home? Does she have brothers and sisters? What does her father do for a living? Does her mother work outside the home? By the way, this last question should be phrased just as I have written it. You will demonstrate that you know her mother works around the house (dusting, cleaning, etc.), and that work (of some sort) gets done at home. Your obvious attention to this fact shows that you are sensitive. Asking questions like this means you care about the woman’s background.

O stands for occupation. What does this woman do? Does she work “outside the home”? Doing what? How long has she been doing this? If she is working at a job that requires a lot of intelligence (e.g., mathematician, physicist, engineer), you probably are not going to get laid by her tonight unless there is an obvious sign to indicate otherwise. Ask her about her job. What are her day-to-day duties? If she works in an area where traditionally there are more males than females (such as engineering), ask if her parents were supportive in getting her to go into such a profession. Again, you are showing that you care about her background and her education.

(Smart women [mathematician, physicist, engineer] require a slightly different approach; the topic of another note.)

Sometimes, a woman who works as a secretary will say something to indicate that she is not impressed with her vocation. Something like “I am just a secretary.” This is opportunity knocking. You should respond with something like “A secretary is just as important as a mathematician. You are working and your role is very important.” And so on. Thus, if she has downgraded herself or her occupation in any way, you should say that her job and the work she does is very important, and say why this is so.

R stands for recreation. What does this woman do for recreation? Does she read a lot? Does she play tennis, participate in marathons or triathlons, softball, etc.? How long has she been into this sort of thing? Does she truly enjoy it, or is it something she was pushed into doing? Does she play the piano? (If so, you are probably in luck. These women are good with their hands and have strong back muscles.)

M stands for men. What does she think about men? Does she like them? Does she like their company? Can men have a decent conversation with her? Has she read any good books about men? Ask her what such books have led her to believe. It is highly likely that she has some preconceived notions about men, and you might be just one of many. You are not going to change her mind. What you are trying to do here, however, is show her that you a little different, a little better, and very worthy of her time and efforts.

Do NOT talk money, politics, or religion unless you have to, but get off the subject ASAP.

Listen, and I mean LISTEN. You are searching for common issues that let you say things in the language that she uses. You are listening to what she says so intently that if you were given a quiz later on, you can regurgitate 90% of what she said. You are listening for words that mean things to her. For example: “I played the piano with gusto during a performance at school.” Gusto is not an everyday word, and you sense that she using it here because it is a word she likes. You should make an effort when you speak to use that word and other words she has mentioned. If she believes that you and she use the same language, she will have a fondness for you, because you and she have something in common: you can communicate on some level using the same language.

There are other opportunities as well. Suppose this woman is wearing a low cut top and there are two 36 D’s desperately wanting to get out of her bra and into your mouth. Do NOT stare at them. During the entire time she is talking, you look into her eyes or study her face. (If you follow Anthony’s advice, there is plenty of time for tit later.) Dozens of men have spoken to this woman, and many could not tell you the color of her eyes. You should be able to, and this is another thing that will make you different.

During the time that she is talking, it is important to compliment her once in a while during the conversation. You should notice something that you believe she likes about herself, and mention it. For example, if she is wearing earrings that are a bit unusual or “dangly”, these might be something she likes and uses to call attention to herself. A compliment like “Your earrings are nice” is OK but doesn’t do it. You have to say something that links the earrings to something else. “The color of your earrings compliments the color of the blouse you are wearing” or some such stuff, especially if that blouse is her favorite color.

On the other hand, suppose she is wearing earrings that are very small, e.g., like the single diamond type. Comment that you have noticed the conservative way she dresses; you believe she is conservative in her dress because her earrings are small, subtle, yet noticeable. You admire her conservative style. You can win here either way.

Do NOT overdo it. She will notice that you have noticed. You must be sincere. Never forget you are trying to date her!

Do NOT be judgmental. If she tells you she did something that was stupid, do NOT say “That was stupid.” Instead you should say that you can understand her behavior and that at the time it seemed like the logical thing to do. In fact, in the same situation, you probably would have reacted in the same way, and with gusto. Judgmental comments should be replaced with supportive comments. Again, you must be sincere. To date is an art, and how to date is just practicing.

What is her: favorite color, favorite book, favorite TV show, favorite everything. Color of eyes important. Use of descriptive words and phrases that she uses is also important.
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Follow your date advice and be happy. Have a nice dating.