WHAT DO PEOPLE MEAN WHEN THEY SAY "BE YOURSELF" OR "FIND YOURSELF"?

When I was having tremendous difficulties in my late teens finding out what I wanted to do with my life, I had a lot of well-intentioned people telling me "be yourself" and then not explaining how.

Mind you, I was willing to pay the price to find myself and then be myself. The question was how? Nobody knew or knew enough to put it in a language simple enough for a 17 years old to understand.

This is the main reason I have created this website. I do not want anybody else in the same situation chasing down blind alleys the way I had done.

I want to share my knowledge with those lost souls out there who are having a hard time looking for themselves right now.

Provided you are willing to pay the price, you will find yourself.

First, if you are surrounded by relatives and friends who are negative and sarcastic and highly critical of you, get yourself out of that environment. Move out of your parents' house, drop your negative friends, divorce your spouse, befriend people who are encouraging and positive (door to door sales industry is probably the easiest place to find positive thinking people), do whatever it takes to get yourself into a supportive, positive and nurturing working and living environment.

You are going to need a supportive, positive and nurturing working and living environment to find yourself. I cannot emphasize this enough.

Then use your head to decide WHAT you want to do. Draw up your goals and things to do list, and follow your heart as to WHEN to do them.

Following your heart is about listening to yourself.

By listening to yourself, you start taking risks and doing things that allow you to grow as a person, in the direction that you want to go.