LISTENING TO YOURSELF

How fast you become more confident and gain higher self esteem depends on how fast you learn to listen to yourself.

For those people who have never been given a chance to think for yourself because you have control freak parents, this is an extremely difficult skill to learn because you have been taught to obey your more powerful parents and your inner voice discounted by your parents and yourself for fear of rejection.

You must do whatever it takes to keep your inner voice alive, even if it means leaving your dysfunctional home to have more time to be alone by yourself.

You have got to realize that in order to like yourself better, you have to learn to enjoy your own company.

You may not realize your family is dysfunctional but if you lack self confidence and lack self esteem and is awkward in social situations and you know a lot of this has to do with your overprotective control freak parents, you are in a dysfunctional relationship.

METHOD 1

CHALLENGING DAYS

METHOD 2

METHOD 3

CONCLUSION

Whenever you listen to yourself and go to bed early or resist the temptation of nice tasting food that is not good for your body, you are acknowledging and accepting your vulnerabilities. It is as good as saying "I don't know" when you don't have the answers.

This is humility in action. It makes you more in touch with your real self, more human, more vulnerable, more real, more genuine, more believable, more humble, and more lovable.

You will still have your vulnerabilities. But now you also have something more. You will have more pride in yourself. You will worry less of what others think of you because, to put it bluntly, the opinions of those who can't pull their own act together should not decide how you live your own life.

Not many people are willing to pay the price to listen to their inner voice. This is why not many people are going to feel good about themselves as much as you do about yourself after you have made the sacrifices.

After you have made the sacrifices, at the very least, you don't have to deal with the short temper and other shit that comes from lack of sleep.

Listening to yourself is not an easy skill to learn because this thing that you are trying to listen to is not visible like the way a piece of paper and a pen are visible to people who are trying to learn writing. Nor is it predictable like the way you can schedule your jogging at a regular time everyday.

To make the situation worse, some people have many different inner voices that give conflicting instructions.

In order to get a handle on this amorphous tool, I have given you three most visible methods to start listening to yourself:

(1) Respect your body and yourself by having a rest when you are physically and mentally tired.

(2) Respect the needs of your sick body and refuse to be tempted to drink or eat food that is not good for you.

(3) Respect the need to relieve yourself in the toilet. Pull yourself away from that interesting task and take a few minutes to get it over and done with.