The Story of Our
Pre-Wedding Marriage
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| Roxanne & Doyle The Story of Our Pre-Wedding Marriage |
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| Now here's the prelude to THE BIG PARTY! (Also known as our wedding.) I've also been working on a wedding page with our pictures and our wedding plans. Click on the ring to the right to check it out! Click here if you'd like to see our web page on "The Knot" wedding site. Below is the story of how and when we actually got married. | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| As I'd mentioned, we'd actually gotten married on August 7, 1998. We'd been living together since September of 1995 and after a couple years of "co-habitating" together, I knew this was the guy for me. I brought up the subject of marriage a couple of times, and after avoiding the subject, he let me know that marriage didn't seem right for him. My heart sank, but then I was faced with the question. "Can I hadle being the perpetual girfriend or not?" Obviously, I came to the conclusion that being with him far outweighed being without him. Besides, I knew that committment wasn't the issue. We're completely committed, and in it for the long haul. So dreams of a wedding just stayed as dreams. | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| So when we were thinking of re-newing our lease for our apartment that third year, he brought up the fact that we could get a house for the amount of rent we were being charged. I totally agreed that our apartment was starting to feel a little cramped... not to mention that our landlord was an idiot, and kept changing the rules of the living conditions. (ie: can't use the backyard without approval of landlord, re-neg'd on the initial use of the laundry room, not fixing the bathroom tile after they'd fallen off the walls, yadda, yadda, yadda.) Anyway, the search for a house was on. After going over our finances and looking at papers and such, Doyle mentioned that it would be a lot easier on us if we were married. (nudge, nudge, wink, wink!) So, we decided get married. He preferred to keep it simple and just do it. Why not?It's not like we would have the money for a big wedding anyway, we were buying a house and that just sucked up all of our funds! | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| After a week of passing over ads for cheesy ministers and looking at a few more houses, we went to the basement of Chicago City Hall and said our vows in front of the judge. Granted, I still dreamed of a wedding, but it was the committment we were making for each other, and with each other that counted. Besides, I talked to Doyle if were going to have a party to celebrate, and he agreed, after we move into our new home. (YES!) | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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| While looking at more houses, we casually mentioned to our realtor that I had a name change, and wondered how this affected our realtor/client contract. You should've seen how suprised she was! She wan't sure if she should say congratulations or not! It's funny, because in the back of my mind, while we were looking for houses, I kept asking myself, "can I have a wedding here?" About a week later, we found our dreamhouse. There were a few glitches here and there so we couldn't move in until February, but that worked out for us. | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
| Anyway, we finally broke the news to our family and friends after we put some money down on the house. Some were in dis-belief, some wondered, "why the rush?" and many kept asking "why didn't you have a wedding?" With that question, I always wanted to answer "We will!" but I didn't want to have to answer any of the inevitable questions that I didn't have answers for. (like when, where, what type...) After our honeymoon, (click here for those pics), we decided it would be sometime after we moved into the house. I saw my family in California in November, and since there were school schedules, work schedules and vacation schedule conflicts, I then chose the date of my wedding. The stress of wedding planning had already started when I chose to have the wedding in August of '99. (This was the start of my "Big Party" quest! ) But if you want to know the planning stages, click here. | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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