Do You Need To Talk?
Do
you find it hard going to a friend’s house or visiting a
relative because you are worried about how your child will behave?
Do people look at you in disgust when you’re walking down
the street with your child from hell?
Have you stopped going to the cinema because of the
incessant talking, which just doesn’t stop no matter how many
times you ask or shush!
Do you panic every time the phone rings when they are out, “What have they
done now?” Any
parent with a child who has R.A.D will recognize some of these and
more but we all know that our friends don’t understand and our
families don’t know how to support us.
My mum once said to me, “I can’t have T, because he is
such hard work”, Why is she telling me that? I have him every
day all year; I know how hard he is!
Babysitters come and go – I call it the Bart Simpson
syndrome! Everyone knows his name and my door has a message above
it that says Abandon hope all ye who enter here.
I
enjoy my sessions at the Family center but they don’t live with
this 24 hours a day seven days a week and I can’t be going there
for the rest of my life. But
who else do I talk to? I
gave up friends years ago, it was just easier than trying to
explain why my son was trying to find out if a hammer would hurt
their child and if it did why did it make them cry?!
There is nothing in books on how to deal with him, nothing
on the Internet unless you’re American, and no parent groups
that I can attend. And
yet, its not just me, there are thousands of parents out there
ripping their hair out, reaching for a sedative or wondering if it
would be best just to walk away.
No
one likes to talk to people in “authority” because we don’t
want to be seen as BAD parents, and we don’t think they would
understand, so we choose to stand silently, only letting people know what we want them to know and nothing more.
But this eats away at us; there can be good weeks when you
think Yes, it’s all over, to be followed by the worst week yet.
Many a time have I attended a meeting at the family center
to tell them that everything is fantastic, I think we’ve got a
break through just to go home to a sobbing daughter and a son
standing there laughing his head of because he’s created it!
Everyone
needs someone to talk to, and it helps if that someone knows
exactly what you are going through, not every child with R.A.D is
the same, but they all look like the exorcist when they have one
of their “turns”!
Feel
free to call me night or day on 01422 885581.
Aren’t Kids great!!
This is a present from my son to me when he was in
one of his moods!!!
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