Every dysfunctional family is unique in its dysfunction; however every survivor of a dysfunctional family shares common traits with other survivors. Like you, I was abused as a child. I grew up with an alcoholic stepfather and an emotional unavailable mother. I had endured both emotional and sexual abuse.

I am not a professional therapist or counselor, only an avid reader, researcher, writer, and survivor. In the end, I am doing this as much for myself as the possibility that this may assist someone else and if it does, then I am honored. I know what it is like to grow up in a dysfunctional family, the problems, and the damage that follows us into adulthood. I lay no claim to possessing the answers, but only hope to share my own discoveries and research. It is up to you to decide how to use the information, what to believe or not believe, and to change your own life.

Ultimately, the only answers we can find for ourselves are those we seek and find for ourselves. We all have the answers inside ourselves. As adults, we have the ability to decide our own fate. We are no longer children and have control over ourselves. However, we bare the scars of our childhood and with these unhealed wounds we move through life like shattered souls. Each of us who choose to embark upon the healing journey have chosen to look honestly at ourselves. We are committing ourselves on a journey of self discovery, repairing and rebuilding the shattered pieces of ourselves.

The journey is not one which ends quickly but healing is possible and a measurement of happiness and contentment does it exist, can exist. It takes time and may be a life long commitment. Each of us may have varying experiences and reasons for embarking on this journey, however the first step is committing to this path and making a commitment to ones self and that is the most important decision anyone can make for themselves. You deserve to make that decision for yourself.

Remember that you are not alone, seek a therapist or counselor to assist you and possibly join a support group of other survivors either in your community or online. They know what you are going through and may be able to assist you.

Take care of yourself. The abuse that you suffered as a child was not your fault, and I hope with all my heart that you find the happiness and contentment that you deserve and should have always had!