Disillusionment of living in American society in the new
millennium:
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The general public consists of mostly uneducated, selfish, materialistic, distrustful, and short-sighted people. |
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The general public consists of mostly prejudiced, discriminatory, racist, and sexist people. |
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The “democracy” is run by a hypocritical government that is too involved and generally violates civil liberties, rights, and freedom of expression. |
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Animal life and nature are generally disrespected and violated. |
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Nationalism creates an elitist, isolationist attitude and apathy towards other countries and immigrants. |
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Most Americans are mentally unhealthy or unstable but do not receive therapy or counseling. |
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Society still wants to punish criminals instead of rehabilitating them. |
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There is much confusion with sexuality and gender role issues. |
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The cost of living is too much for a single individual. |
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There are too many low-paying jobs and not enough opportunities for college students to find immediate employment. |
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Society's role models and high salaries are focused on sports and the entertainment industry. |
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Conservative organized religions have too much say in political, social, and educational matters. |
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Political correctness is suppressing freedom of expression and creating unnecessary civil suits and apologies. |
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With the rise of technological advances, human interaction is decreasing. |
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Politicians are mere mockeries of the original intentions of America's founding fathers- they do not represent the “people”- they represent special interest groups, money, and lies. |
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Society is still generally not accepting of different people. |
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You are the final authority. Not me. Not the Bible. Not text books. Not a Buddha. Not the government. Not the president. Not your parents. Not your wife or husband. Not the philosophers, scientists, doctors, priests, rabbis, professors, politicians, or generals. Not school. Not court. Not your job. No one can bear responsibility for your life, your words, or your actions. That authority is yours and yours alone. You shouldn't try to get rid of it or escape it, because you can not.
You are your own savior. Not Jesus. Not Gandhi. Not the Pope. Not Martin Luther King. Not Caesar. Not Hitler. Not Michael Jordan. Not Marilyn Manson. Not Allah. Not the Dalai Lama. Not Lincoln. Not Lenin. No one can offer you salvation except yourself. You control your own destiny. Have faith in yourself.
Paraphrased from Steve Hagen
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It will blind you with a rage that will lead to acts of vengeance.
It will cause you to commit premeditated murder.
It will cost you your job, your security, and your status in life.
It will hurt you in a way that you've never been hurt before.
It will cause years of grieving and sadness.
It always leads to a loss in your life that will lead to a suffering that may never be relieved.
It tends to disguise itself as “love”.
But its true name is “attachment”.
Attachment is a perception or feeling that takes away the individual properties that make up what it is to be human.
Attachment is the forced amalgamation of a person with a person, thing, idea, animal, god, or feeling.
Attachment causes dependency.
Fleas and tics need to attach to their host animals to survive. They feed on these animals. The hosts feel irritated and will start to scratch their bodies to rid themselves of these unwanted pests.
Once the fleas or the tics are removed from feasting on the animals' blood and flesh, the insects will die; they do not survive the detachment.
Do you want to become the flea or tic?
The meaning of the word “attachment” has been distorted in American society in recent years. Many people, who believe themselves to be “empathic” or “in touch with their feelings”, will always talk about attachment in a positive light. These people are also eternal optimists who believe that the very things they cling to will last forever. They delude themselves to believe that their family, job, country, religion, beliefs, money, happiness, or lifestyle are permanent.
Well guess what my friend, everything in life is temporary. People die, nations crumble, religions reform or become mythology, businesses fold, money disappears as easily as it is found, feelings and happiness are a state of mind, ideas become modified or useless, and people will change their minds about how they feel about you or the world.
If I sound pessimistic, negative, nihilistic, depressing, apathetic, or like a post-modernist existentialist , then you miss my point.
My point is actually one of enjoying the people, things, feelings, or ideas that you hold dear to you. Love them and appreciate them to the fullest extent of your capabilities. Never take them for granted. Enjoy them and make sure your focus is on them. Live with them for the moment, but just realize that these objects will one day not exist anymore. You will have their memories, so focus on creating positive memories. But in the reality as we know it, these objects will be with you indefinitely.
Anytime I speak on topics like this, I am regarding the theoretical and practical. I am concerned about the individual and the society. I hold personal experiences and events that shaped our history to be sources of knowledge that each of us learn from.
So when I speak of the suffering of attachment, I am not just speaking of the feeling of when an intimate relationship that you were involved in ends, or when a member of your family or a close friend dies, or when your car gets totaled in a wreck, or when you move to a new city and leave your old job, house, and friends. No, I am also referring to your very core belief system and perceptions of the very fabric of reality of itself. They too, will change if you have an open mind. Many people are afraid of change because they feel the foundations of their lives will be cracked and they will fall into an unknown dark abyss. Well, if “change” never existed, my name would be Grog, the Cave-Man and to get a date for tonight I would club She-Grog, the Cave-Woman over the head.
Citizens of nations become crushed when they become attached to their political ideology or their leaders. In fact, like all forms of attachment, they lose their identity as individuals. They surrender their individuality and freedoms for an ideology that 99% of the time is based on some sort of nationalism or imperialism; sometimes it is blatant, other times it is masked under the guise of democracy. The leaders of most nations only can survive if the masses will attach to their ideology, otherwise the system will crumble. If the system or ideology needs to be changed, modified, improved, or even totally deconstructed and rebuilt, then the individuals in that society should have every right to do so- keeping in mind that even the new system will not be permanent. Yet it is better for the time being.
By no means is this a political manifesto. I am simply demonstrating that attachment occurs in our personal lives and in our relation with our society. The means to attach are everywhere, and it is up to us to realize the potential and dangers that will occur. The notion that attachment leads to suffering is not a new or revolutionary idea at all. The pitfalls of attachment were taught by Siddhartha Gautama, the historical Buddha. Those who understand the principles of Zen also realize that attachment can only lead to suffering.
In American society and many Western cultures, materialism is valued more than the unseen. Therefore, it may be inherently difficult for one to not become attached to the goals Western society imposes upon the masses. Hopefully, those people can find the root of their suffering when they lose their $100 million dollar record deal or when their mansion in Hollywood, California gets destroyed by an earthquake. Possession of money is just as temporary as weather conditions. Everything is temporary. Are all of your favorite sports players from 10 years ago still on the same team that you follow? Heck, are they even on the same team from last season? The franchise itself may be the same, but the components changed, sometimes for better, sometimes for worse. Franchises themselves changes cities or are disbanded. And the majority of sports fanatics become shocked, angry, or depressed- yet another form of how attachment leads to suffering.
The key is to focus on the moment, but be mindful of the future; this will ease or even eliminate the pain of detachment, since practitioners of this philosophy will not attach to begin with.
And when the day comes to change that particular belief and philosophy, it will be just as painless!
Our reality is ever-changing, like a river. We must do what it takes to ease our suffering, and not becoming attached to the temporary is one way. Our minds can change perceptions, thereby creating a new reality. Our perceptions create our realities.
It is possible to love, care for, and appreciate objects without being attached. It is impossible not to be severely hurt if you lose someone or something that you were attached to. It can take years for people to be fully recovered from detachment. But even if one day, the person does heal, were the years of agony and depression worth it, when it could have been prevented from the very beginning?
The nature of temporary states is that even the feeling of suffering is not exempt from this force; suffering is temporary as well. Suffering does have a tendency to teach us about life and reality, there is no question about that. But to indulge in suffering or to let it defeat you, is surrendering your life.
Think long and hard, my friend. Contemplate my words and ask yourself if you enjoy suffering. Look into your inner being, examine the experiences in your life and events that happen in your society. Ask yourself if people are better off attaching to things, believing them to be everlasting and eternal, when in fact they exist for but for a flash in time. And finally, ask yourself if those people would be happier if they treasured those things for the moment, and prepared to make the transition if those things no longer existed.
And then you make your own decision.
Damian Hospital
1/2/2000
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The following scenarios are ethical dilemmas. These situations actually occurred, although names have changed or omitted. All of these circumstances present a right vs. right dilemma, as opposed to a right vs. wrong dilemma. Indeed, either decision made is correct. For the purposes of this intellectual discourse, it is necessary for the participants' decision to strive for “goodness”. Keep in mind the various schools of moral and ethical judgments, as well as your personal convictions and philosophies. Legal ramifications or law code should be considered, but keep in mind that laws may not necessary be ethically or morally “correct”.
The three major schools of ethical discussion are based upon: 1)The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few; 2) The notion that if you act upon a decision, then everyone in society should act the same way if they are in the same situation, and the greatest good will come from that; and 3) Act in a way that you would want to be treated if you were in the same situation.
Each individual has his or her own sense of values and morality. The goal of this “game” is for people to share their opinions and to become “ethically fit” in case they are in these situations.
There are no wrong answers. After each scenario, you will be presented with two possible options. Please think of the consequences of each possible action. Maybe there is a middle way or compromise that you can come up with.
Scenario #1
You are an elementary school teacher in Brooklyn, New York. It is past 3 o'clock and you are preparing for the next day's lesson plans. You work until 5 o'clock.
A student enters your classroom. He is an underprivileged 10-year old black youth named Sean. He explains that on his way home, he found a wallet in the street. Inside the wallet is 1,000 dollars and identification of the owner indicating the owner's address and telephone number.
What do you do?
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Call the owner and have him come to school and claim the wallet, with the child present. |
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Call the boy's mother and have her deal with this situation. |
Scenario #2
You are a public librarian. It is your duty to help people find public information- and to keep all queries confidential. It is near the end of the day and you are very busy. A man calls the library requesting law books and case books concerning rape. He is asking very detailed and specific questions. You write his name and number on a notepad; you say that you would look for the literature and call him back with an answer.
You are approached by another man who identifies himself as a detective and he shows you his badge. Detective Robinson explains that there have a few rapes in the area quite recently and, after listening to your phone conversation, requests the caller's name and number. The detective says that the caller sounds like a suspect and the safety of the community is as stake.
What do you do?
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Refuse to give the officer the name and number of the caller because of the expectation of privacy from the caller. |
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Give the officer the name and number of the caller. |
Scenario #3
You are a school teacher that has been assigned to head the senior prom. You used to work in a big city, but now you work in a small town, whose residents have conservative and strong religious beliefs.
Your duty for heading the senior prom is to sign permission slips for students that want to bring dates from other schools. It is merely a formality; your boss just doesn't want too many outside students to overrun your school's prom.
Jessica comes into your office with a consent form; she wants to bring a date from another school, her girlfriend Heather.
You know that the community does not tolerate homosexuality, but you also know that refusing the girl is being discriminatory.
What do you do?
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Refuse the girl's desire to bring her lesbian date. |
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Allow the lesbians to participate at the prom. |
Scenario #4
You are a police officer making your usual highway patrol at 4:00 am in the middle of nowhere. You notice a wreck up ahead. An oil truck is on fire and the passenger is trapped inside. The fire is spreading quickly and the driver is pinned under a steal beam. There is no way to get him out in time by yourself.
You phone the fire department with your radio after assessing the situation. It will probably be too long for help to come with the way the fire is spreading. The driver is pleading with you and crying for you to shoot him with your pistol; he does not want to be burned to a crisp and to die such a painful death. The driver wants a quick death. Given the situation, you cannot free him.
Your police officer's code does not permit euthanasia (assisted suicide).
What do you do?
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Take your pistol and kill the man. |
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Wait for the fire truck to come, which will result in the certain death of the driver. |
Scenario #5
You are a supervisor at a major business corporation. You are close friends with a worker that you supervise. Upper management is having a closed door meeting. Every time that they have these meetings, people get laid off.
Your friend Barney is getting extremely anxious because he has a family to take care of and needs the steady pay. He would need to make quick contingency plans if he is to be laid off.
After the meeting, your manager Stanley calls you aside and informs you that budget cuts will be made. He tells you who will be cut; your friend is one of the workers. Your boss tells you to keep this information confidential as the layoffs will occur “very soon”. Your friend approaches you later in the day and asks you if he is going to be cut.
What do you do?
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Lie to your friend and tell him that you do not know. |
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Disregard your boss' orders and tell your friend. |
Scenario #6
You are an editor-in-chief for a major newspaper. A top-notch journalist works for you. Julie has always written the best articles for the food and cooking section of the paper. She is young and clearly head and shoulders above other writers her age.
She had submitted this week's article and it was fantastic, although this week she seemed that something was troubling her outside of work. The day before you were about to publish it, the head of the food and cooking section comes into your office. Mrs. Miller is an older woman and has a look of concern on her face. She firmly places a thirty-year old cook book on your desk along with the young journalist's article. Her article was copied verbatim (word for word). By now, everyone in the office knows.
What do you do?
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Call her in your office and fire her for plagiarizing, which is, by far the worst possible action a writer can ever take. |
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Lecture her but forgive her since her piece was technically not published yet. |
Scenario #7
You are in charge of Project Thor, a space shuttle program for NASA. It is a multi-billion dollar project. As the head, you are responsible for every scientist, astronaut, mechanic, technician, and janitor on the site. You are also in direct communications with the federal government and media. You realize that a job such as this is vast and one mistake can cause serious harm to everyone involved.
The way the Project is set up, every step must be implemented in order and tested many times to prevent a mishap- like the Challenger disaster. This project is now 10 months old and you are ready for the final test before tomorrow's launch.
At the final countdown for the test, you see workers start to panic and flee from the launching pad. There was a gas leak from the inside of the shuttle. If a spark is ignited, everyone out there would be burned to death, the shuttle would be destroyed, the Project would lose its funding, and the media would lose faith in NASA. Luckily, there was no spark.
After investigation, you determine that the cause was a mechanic performing a step out of order. You call Louis into your office and present your findings and discipline him.
What do you do?
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Suspend the worker without pay and/or fire him immediately. |
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Keep him since no one got hurt and he will most definitely never make a mistake again. |
Scenario #8
You have been working at a computer company for 5 years in California. You have been making decent money ($30,000), and you live in an apartment in Los Angeles. You have been offered a better position in the company. The new position requires you to relocate to Ohio. This position will double your salary ($60,000 + benefits) and is more stimulating for you as a person.
Your wife has a steady job as an administrative assistant for an accounting firm and she really enjoys it. Your two teenage children have some emotional problems and will most definitely react negatively at a new school in Ohio. Also, you and your wife must deal with an entirely different community, which may be intolerant to your culture. However, with the higher pay, you can definitely afford a house for the family and finance your children's education.
What do you?
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Thinking long term, you relocate so you can finally support your family for life. |
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Thinking short term, you remain in California to keep the status quo so your family is happy.
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I am simply human- no more, no less. I am not perfect, not a god, not a messiah, not a superhuman; I am human, and all that it implies. My views should not dictate anyone else's life but my own. Feel free to read these words with scrutiny, excitement or apathy. It matters not.
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Your perception creates your reality. |
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Focus on the moment, but be mindful of the future. |
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Recognize that your senses may be flawed, but they are at least a guide. |
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Those who cannot change the fabric of their thought will never change their reality. |
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Other people's perceptions of you should not create your reality. |
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There is no good or bad, black or white, good or evil. |
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The first act of insight is to throw away the labels. |
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Race, religion, age, looks, politics, philosophy, education, sexuality, nationality, status, and handicaps are all illusions; we are all human first. |
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Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, but don't forget some people need glasses. |
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Why look down upon a beggar or a homeless person? We are all going to the same place after death- the grave. |
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Are you going to concentrate and focus on the life you have now, or make a leap of faith and concentrate and focus on the next life? |
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Your thoughts are inside your mind, the outside cannot control them. |
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A strong belief system leans and skews your perceptions, thus blocking the other views. |
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A person should not die for a belief, a belief should die for a person. |
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Truth and reality are clearer when being objective and not taking extreme standpoints. |
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Would you rather be grounded in this reality or a flying in a magical fantasy world? |
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Every event and action is based upon cause and effect; therefore, nothing is accidental. |
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You are your final authority. |
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You cannot depend on anyone- there is no ultimate guide, teacher, or authority. There is only you, your relationship with others and the world. |
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Power doesn't have to show off. Power is confidence, self-assuring, self-starting, self-stopping, self-warming and self-justifying; when you have it, you know it. |
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If you don't have faith or trust in yourself, who are you going to have faith and trust in? |
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Only we can limit ourselves. No force is powerful enough to limit your spirituality, power, love, or happiness- unless you allow it. |
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Knowledge without power is philosophy; power without knowledge is what the human race has been since the dawn of time; power is power. |
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The power of the Will can conquer any disease- mental or physical. The power of the Will can change your life, and the world. |
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Since we cannot be universal and know all what is to be known about everything, we ought to know a little about everything. |
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Seize the day. |
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Suck out the marrow of life. |
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The only mistake is a mistake not learned from. |
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No experience is a negative experience. |
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Every moment living things grow, learn, and experience; all living things are dynamic, not stagnant, and everything and everyone changes. |
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With great power comes great responsibility. |
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Absolute power corrupts absolutely. |
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What is happiness without pain? |
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Fear leads to anger; anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering; and suffering is the path to the dark side. |
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Desire, attachment, and delusion lead to suffering. |
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If humankind has the ability to destroy the world 100 times over, humankind also has the ability to save it once. |
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Doesn't suffering arise from anger, hatred, violence, and war? So why does humanity continue down this path? |
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An eye for an eye will make the world blind. |
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All living things are part of the whole. |
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All living things have a symbiotic relationship. |
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When you destroy or hate something, you are destroying and hating part of yourself; when you help or love something, you help and love part of yourself. |
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Live simply so others may simply live. |
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How do you, your society, your world, and nature benefit when you harm yourself or another living being? |
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Contentment is not complacency; contentment is happiness; complacency is accepting your current situation. |
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People tend to detest what they see in other people because they see themselves. |
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All of our thoughts, feelings, expressions, and actions have consequences- it is our responsibility to be aware of this. |
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Only help those who asked to be helped, or if their actions dictate that they are in need of assistance. |
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We can't help people who don't want to help themselves. |
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You cannot put a yak's head on a sheep's body, and visa versa. |
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Regret inaction, not action. |
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If not now, when? |
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Why continue to make apologizes? Why not prevent the harm from happening in the first place? |
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View unhealthy people as a challenge to your discipline, not as your masters. |
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There is not necessarily a correlation between chronological age and age of maturity. |
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Empathy leads to compassion, compassion leads love. |
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Who can you trust if you can't trust yourself? |
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Think before you act- but not too long. |
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It is much easier to push a boulder down a steep mountain than to pull a stubborn donkey up the slope. |
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Hard work does not guarantee success or enlightenment; intention does. |
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The first step on the path to anything is realizing that the path exists. |
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The journey is more important that the destination. |
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A student who does not bow to his master is not a student; a master that does not bow to his student is not a master. |
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Everyone is responsible for their own actions. |
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We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong; the amount of work is the same. |
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Go through obstacles, not around them. |
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Confront your greatest fear. |
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The most common sort of lie is one muttered by oneself. |
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Learn from the past, but do not live in it. |
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To conserve anger is to control it so it can be transmuted into a power which can move the world. |
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We cannot love ourselves unless we love others, and we cannot love others unless we love ourselves. |
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Perfection does not exist, therefore those who strive for it will always be disappointed. |
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There is no such thing as failure. |
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Your feelings are more important than anyone else's. |
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Whoever fights monsters should see fit to it that in the process they do not become monsters. |
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We should be skeptical to those who claim they know the Truth and hold the key to your salvation. |
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Not one theory, philosophy, religion, belief system, ideology, science, book, history, or society alone can possible discern the Truth; each idea is merely a pinhole in an infinite universe. |
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Ignorance is not bliss, ignorance is ignorance. |
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Intelligence does not imply wisdom. |
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Language limits our thoughts and expression, that's why there are other ways of expressing what we feel. |
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The true hero does not necessarily have to blow up star ships and save the galaxy; the true hero needs to just smile at a stranger. |
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Only in growth, reform, and change can true stability be found. |
9-6-99
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November 24, 2001
Sun Sentinel
200 E. Las Olas Blvd
Fort Lauderdale, FL 33301
RE: Jim Hughes of Davie’s letter “Search Backpacks”
in your October 15, 2001 Opinion section
I felt absolutely shocked and appalled after reading Jim Hughes’ letter
“Search Backpacks” in your October 15, 2001 edition.
Mr. Hughes suggested school officials search backpacks and lockers
because we have “Middle Eastern” people attending our schools. This
statement is clearly biased, bigoted, ignorant, discriminatory, and wrong!
First of all, if there is a plan to check backpacks and lockers in our
schools, specific groups cannot be targeted. We live in a free democracy, not a
totalitarian dictatorship. I have not come across any statistics that
demonstrate students from the “Middle East” (what a blanket term, Mr.
Hughes- so many countries form what you call the “Middle East”) carry bombs
or weapons in their book bags more than rednecks do.
There is violence in our schools, but checking only “Middle Eastern”
students in unconstitutional and morally wrong. Something must be done, perhaps
random checks based on Student ID# or Social Security #, but not based upon
physical characteristics or last names of students.
Secondly, this newspaper should have an ethical responsibility not to
spread hate, yet you decided to publish Jim Hughes’ hate laced letter. Some
letters do not need to contain anthrax to be destructive. Mr. Hughes’ opinion
should not have been published. It is like a crank. It served no purpose. Our
Muslim community has enough problems with bigotry right now. Mr. Hughes’
letter just adds to the irrational fears and prejudices in this country, which
are reminiscent of how Japanese-Americans were treated during World War II.
Shame on the Sun-Sentinel for valuing one little man’s ignorant opinion
over the stability and righteousness of our community.
If your newspaper seriously believes that everyone’s voice has equal
merit, you are seriously mistaken. People like Hughes spread hate. He should
write articles for hate newsletters down here. His letter has no place in a
newspaper that is supposed to be objective.
Finally, if you are under the belief that the Opinion letters promote
discussion among your readers, you are sadly incorrect. From now on, I will
purchase another local newspaper instead of yours. How unprofessional and
irresponsible you are for running Jim Hughes’ emotional rants of racism.
-Damian Hospital
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Art Bell Invaded My Brain
by Tony DeCarvalho
When I was four years old, I would do this magic
trick -- I would wrap a yellow Hot Wheels van in a paper towel, unfurl it, and
viola! the van would disappear.
Well, not really. The car just fell to the
ground ...
... except one time. I was standing next to
the radiator in the living room. I did my trick and poof! my yellow van
was gone. The van didn't land on the ground.
I remember believing the magic trick would work
... but I didn't expect the van to disappear.
I looked for that van for months. I looked
all around the radiator ... under the couch ... nothing. Normally, I'm
good at finding things ... but I never found the van.
I was listening to Art Bell the other night, and
Dean Koontz was his guest. They were talking about parallel universes, and
Mr. Koontz mentioned a strange event that occurred to him -- a fork fell on the
floor and it disappeared. That got my attention.
Koontz believed that the fork had fallen into a
hole that led to a parallel universe.
Koontz continued, suggesting that we create new
realities whenever we make a choice in life. He seemed to be saying that
conscious energy is the most powerful force in the universe -- able to create,
destroy, or alter reality at will.
Is consciousness the most powerful force in the
universe? So powerful that it can create different realities, based on our
choices in life?
Consciousness certainly is mysterious ... and
appropriate Art Bell fodder.
Here's what I think: the infinite isn't big
enough to hold the uncontained power of enlightened consciousness. The
vaults of fact and information are thrown open and melted before the glory of
enlightenment. The core, raw materials of existence are reinterpreted and
reinvented in the image of the newly-awakened conscious.
Nothing can stop us once our consciousness is set
free.
Our goal should be to create uninhibited states,
where all beings can explore their own individual paths ... and join together in
the intertwining of dreams, reality, the infinite, the imaginative, and the
exploration and creation of the unknown.
And maybe then I can find that yellow Hot Wheels
van that I lost when I was four....
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