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Celibacy = Self-Respect
A special guest editorial. Hi! My name is Jessela Gonzales. Tony and Damian were gracious enough to actually put my dumb ramblings here on the web site. (Thanks, guys! J) Anyhow, the reason I am taking the time to write is that I would
like to discuss teen sex. I feel that that is a very important topic nowadays. I am 19-years old, and I have two sisters, ages 14 and 17. It
seems like all of their classmates at school (we live en Miami) are either
having sex or wanting to have sex. Well, I think it is wrong, and let me tell you why. Now, I am no prude or anything like that. But having sex is a
mature thing to do, and I don’t believe these kids are ready for that now.
They think they are, but they’re not. I remember when I was that age -- I
thought I was always right, and that school sucked and my parents sucked and
society as a whole was out to get me. Well, as I got older, I matured. I am currently in a serious relationship with a guy I met at a
bookstore. We went out for 8 months, without having any physical contact! Now,
this shows a few things: 1) We both believed we were both worth the wait; 2) He
respected me; and 3) Not having sex did not prevent us from enjoying each other. I know so many girls that get used by guys. I know like five
girls that have had abortions before they were 17 years old. They need to be
more selective. My cousin, who is 26, said that in the 1980’s teenagers were
not so anxious to have sex back then. Now it seems as if boys and girls get
antsy in 3rd grade! I blame television, radio, movies, and comic books for this. All
throughout the entertainment world sex is glorified. It’s like American
society wants to shove smut down everyone’s throats. (No pun intended.) Sex sells. It is the number one industry in America. But that’s
the problem -- sex is not a commodity. It should be an intimate
expression of love. My friends that have had “one night stands” really have
struggles with self-esteem. I don’t let them fool me. They play it off like it
doesn’t bother them -- when some well-hung brother turns their asses
black-and-blue, they’re like “well, I used him, too” or “I don’t care
that he never called me back” or “I didn’t even get his name”. Finally, let me say that girls should not be putting out on the
first date. The moment that happens is the moment she loses her self-respect.
And that’s what it is all about, really. Women should demand that guys
treat them with human decency. And if they don’t treat the women right, they
could go away and never come back. -Jessela Gonzales |
