A Few Quotes From The Group

I have been a member of the other Closed Loop for about 7 or 8 months and have found that it has been a great help and support to me.  Believe me life isn't easy, but I have always been able to chat or post to the  guys on the Loop and know that someone else has had these same feelings and experiences. Not wanting or looking for advice necessarily, but just knowing someone knows what you are going through feels so good.

As I grew up I learned to interpret the signals that girls were sending, usually quite accurately..... But with men..... well that's quite another matter. As a man with very little experience of m2m relationships firstly I don't know for sure what signals I might be sending out, and second I'm not at all certain what messages I'm getting back. It's not so easy to just come out and say to a guy  "I really fancy you" - or is it? Well, for me it isn't. I don't relish the thought of getting a thick lip! Looking forward to getting some useful tips.

 [What I'm looking for is] just a good friendship really, I'm not going to fall in love, don't want to live with a guy, in fact no more commitment than any two mates/pals have for each other.

I've had e-mail dialogue with anyone who would talk to me. Sometimes ideas and thoughts have been so in tune that I've been convinced that this guy is going to be my friend. Until we meet and I'm proved wrong. The opposite is sometimes true as well, not all nice guys come over well in written conversation. The point here of course is that its often worth half an hour of your time to meet someone in person if possible. To do this safely is not difficult, common sense tells you what the risks are and most of the time there are none. What's that saying 'nothing ventured nothing gained'.

I am interested in meeting and becoming friends with people out there dealing with similar issues. This can be a lonely life when you don't have anyone to lean on. It is so difficult to trust people, so you continue hurting and holding that secret inside. Is there anyone out there in this quandary?

I endorse what has been said by all the other new members, about this being a great place to express our feelings and hopefully find someone locally for support and friendship.

It was an enormous relief for me when I discovered the Closed Loop group, to know that there are so many other guys out there who feel the same way I do about their sexuality, their marriages, their worries and concerns. Just knowing I'm not alone is so good. And that's the message that's coming over loud and clear from others in the group's postings.

Thanks for being a great bunch of guys, and for just being there.