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UNDER CONSTRUCTION
An Open Line
Almost all parents have troub holding meaningful conversations with their teenagers. Use these tips from Wayne Rice's Understanding Your Teenager seminar to help open communication lines: Show up. You can't talk if you aren't there. Be sure to make time for your teenager.
Talk in motion. Find something to do with your teenager while communicating- playing hoops, shopping, or learning a computer program, for example.
Shock them. Say something novel every so often. Unexpected comments will definitely get their attention.
Tantalize them. Entice them into meaningful conversations with lead-ins such as "I have something to tell you, but I'm not sure you'll be able to handle it" or "What I"m about to say will probably surprise you."
Ask for advice. When you're trying to decide what outfit to wear, a vacation itinerary, or what movie to see, ask your teenager for an opinion, and be prepaed to be surprised by his or her insight.
Talk moe about the future and less about the past. Encourage your kids to tell you their dreams. Most teenagers like to talk about the future, but they dread digging up the past.
Shut up. Don't always fill in "dead air." Silence can communicate a readiness to listen to what your teenager has to say.
Taken from: the homepage. (C) 2002 group Magazine
Conflict & God: What's God up 2? aConflict with people are normal, but it probably feels very abnormal. People often wonder if they did something wrong; if they have sinned against God. But that's not always the case. Look at the life of apostle Paul and Joseph, they were all at the center of God's will, yet their life was filled with hardship. Their lives show us that God often want us to learn something. Here are some tips that may help us to see what God has in mind:
b- Change your prayers from "Lord, help us out of this!" to "Lord, help us to learn what you want us to."
b- We rarely get an answer to the question, "Why?" Instead of demanding an answer, it's more important to ask from humility and trust in God's goodness.
a- Avoid wishing things were different. Remind your family of the presence of God, even during painful times.
c- Stop praying that God will change others, and ask God to change you.
d- Instead of asking, "How can I get this resolved quickly?" start asking, "Lord what do you want to teach me through this?"
adapted from: "Faith and Family Conflict." the homepage. (C) 2002 group Magazine.
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This page is dedicated to parents of COOL members. We realize that being a parent is not easy and having a culture and often a language gap makes things that much harder. It is our prayer that God will grant you widom as you do your best in raising the teens. We hav provided some links that we hope will help you to better understand the teen-age culture. May God richly bless you! -COOL staff |
Parental Links - Youth Builders: Narramore psychological link - Plugged In: Current cultural issues of the youth (media) - Center for Parent/Youth Understanding - Substance Abuse & Teens - Focus on the Family - Song Lyrics Universe: Know what your teens are listening to - Marriage Partnership - Christianity Today: Parenting - Family Life: Parenting tips - Al Menconi: Media reviews (including video games) |
| Words from the Bible: - "Teach your children right from wrong, and when they are grown they will still do right." Proverbs 22:5, CEV - "And you must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are away on a journey, when you are lying downa and when you are getting up again." Deuteronomy 6:5-7, NLT -"The Lord is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer." 2 Samuel 22:2 |
Why should I go to church? Sound familiar? I know I have heard many parents talk about the issue. I think there are many ways we can respond: One: You don't have too. Two: Christians are supposed to! Three: Because I said so. The best response is, however, none of the above. Try something like this: We go to church because we choose to accept God's invitation to worship and fellowship with other believers. Adopted from: "Why Should I Go to Church?" the homepage, (C) 2002 group Magazine. |
Almost all parents have troub holding meaningful conversations with their teenagers. Use these tips from Wayne Rice's Understanding Your Teenager seminar to help open communication lines: Show up. You can't talk if you aren't there. Be sure to make time for your teenager.
Talk in motion. Find something to do with your teenager while communicating- playing hoops, shopping, or learning a computer program, for example.
Shock them. Say something novel every so often. Unexpected comments will definitely get their attention.
Tantalize them. Entice them into meaningful conversations with lead-ins such as "I have something to tell you, but I'm not sure you'll be able to handle it" or "What I"m about to say will probably surprise you."
Ask for advice. When you're trying to decide what outfit to wear, a vacation itinerary, or what movie to see, ask your teenager for an opinion, and be prepaed to be surprised by his or her insight.
Talk moe about the future and less about the past. Encourage your kids to tell you their dreams. Most teenagers like to talk about the future, but they dread digging up the past.
Shut up. Don't always fill in "dead air." Silence can communicate a readiness to listen to what your teenager has to say.
Taken from: the homepage. (C) 2002 group Magazine
Conflict & God: What's God up 2? aConflict with people are normal, but it probably feels very abnormal. People often wonder if they did something wrong; if they have sinned against God. But that's not always the case. Look at the life of apostle Paul and Joseph, they were all at the center of God's will, yet their life was filled with hardship. Their lives show us that God often want us to learn something. Here are some tips that may help us to see what God has in mind:
b- Change your prayers from "Lord, help us out of this!" to "Lord, help us to learn what you want us to."
b- We rarely get an answer to the question, "Why?" Instead of demanding an answer, it's more important to ask from humility and trust in God's goodness.
a- Avoid wishing things were different. Remind your family of the presence of God, even during painful times.
c- Stop praying that God will change others, and ask God to change you.
d- Instead of asking, "How can I get this resolved quickly?" start asking, "Lord what do you want to teach me through this?"
adapted from: "Faith and Family Conflict." the homepage. (C) 2002 group Magazine.
