Polar means having two poles and it should behave like a magnet. Molecule means a group of atoms bonded together. So this group of atoms held together must have a positive pole and a negative pole to behave like a magnet.
Now there is a concept known as electronegativity - the different abilities of atoms to hold tightly to its valence electrons. Let us consider a carbon-fluorine σ-bond. Carbon wants to keep its electron and fluorine wants to take it. So they agreed to share with each contributing one electron to form a covalent bond. Like all agreements carbon must read the fine prints. In a covalent bond the electrons are suppose to move around the two atom centers and thus hold the atoms to each other. That is on average each atom must have an equal share of the electrons in the bond. However because of the difference in electronegativity the electron spend more time with fluorine than carbon. So on average carbon experience a lost of electron and fluorine a gain of electrons. Thus the carbon-fluorine covalent bond actually has a slight positive charge at the carbon center and a slight negative charge at the fluorine center.
But the bond is only part of a molecule. In a molecule like carbon dioxide, O=C=O, you have two negative ends and a positive carbon at the center. This molecule cannot behave like a magnet. So the geometry of the molecule is important. Similar carbon tetrafluoride has a tetrahedral structure so is like a ball with carbon at the center, so it is also not polar.
Methylfluoride, CH3F, also has a tetrahedral structure but the surface where fluorine is will be slightly negative, while the other hemisphere is slightly positive. So it is a polar molecule.
In conclusion you need to focus on two concepts.
- All covalent bonds between two different atoms are polar.
- The symmetry of the molecule must be such that there can exist two polar terminals. Back