The date - Dating - Grossman Parenting

Hablar sin pensar
es tirar sin encarar [Spanish]
To speak without thinking
is to shoot without taking aim

You've gone through all the preliminary steps discussed in this Dating section, and now you are on your first date with this partner. Sometimes your initial nervousness may subside sooner than you expected. Nonetheless, you do feel a bit lost. What should you do? What should you say? How should you act?

It may be a good idea to ask some of the most important questions that were not answered in a satisfactory manner during your Berurim. In some cases, the contacts may not have known the correct answers. In other cases, you may want to resolve contradictory responses.

Keep the following guidelines in mind:

Don't rattle off the questions in rapid fire order

Raise your questions in a logical and natural manner

Don't ask the questions as if you are reciting a homework assignment that you memorized
Don't present your questions as if you are interrogating your date

Be aware of movement and transitions in the conversation

Don't worry if you cannot ask all of your questions

Do try to ask your priority questions
They will help you determine whether to go on a second date

Try to ask enough questions so that you can form opinions and make decisions

Where do you want to go now?

See the next article in this series