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April 15, 2002     8w0d
Great Day!
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   Well, today was much better than your typical Monday!  Although I still haven't heard from my advisor, my meeting with my DGS went really well.  She told me I don't have to TA next spring, and that I can still put my comps off until late summer/early fall!  That is better than I could possibly have hoped for.  She said it wouldn't affect my stipend at all, that I could just do my final semester of TA'ing sometime in my 4th year.  That suits me just fine.  This means I'll be able to stay at home full time from late November or December 2002 until late August 2003...that's perfect!  I'll have to continue to study for comps while at home, but I knew that anyway.  Sure, I'll have to go to the library a lot, but I can do that in the evening's when Nate can watch the baby.  All I'll be doing is checking lots of books out...I can do all the reading from home.  Yay!  This is just so much better than I could have expected.  It feels like everything is really falling into place.
     On another good note, our stroller arrived today.  It appears to be all there and in good shape.  I've figured out how to do everything but CLOSE it. :)  Oh well, I've got 7 months to figure that out, don't I?? 
     Well, gotta go study...man, I can't wait until this semester is over!
April 17, 2002     8w2d
Everything is Falling Perfectly into Place
   Any fears I had initially harbored about how baby and school would mix have been totally put to rest.  Everyone here at ND has been so wonderful!  Everyone who is affected by my pregnancy in any way has been nothing but positive and supportive.  Obviously, there's already the great news I got on Monday about being able to stay home with the baby in the spring.  But my advisor, the most important person to my success in the program and my future in the field, has been particularly great.  Last week, I sent him this big, long e-mail (he's on leave in NY right now), reassuring him that I was still totally committed to the program, but asking to delay my comps a few months.  This is what he had to say to me:

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Hi Michelle,
     First off, congratulations!
     Second, I certainly have no objections to planning on comps in the late summer/fall of 2003. A conservative plan seems wise. Thanks for your assurances about your commitment to the program, of which I have no doubt. I've seen many folks have children during grad school and it bears no relation to who finishes with a PhD and even surprisingly little predictive relation to how long it takes! It is just one of many life changes or events that requires adjustments and flexibility (though surely one of the bigger ones).

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     Could he be any more understanding?  I thank my lucky stars everyday that I chose such a great advisor.  Later in the e-mail, he even complimented my writing skills.  Positive reinforcement is a real rarity around here, but he always has something nice and positive to say to me in every e-mail or every time we meet.  When I came here, I would never have guessed in a million years he would be my advisor - our fields seem very different - but it appears that I could not have made a better choice in finding someone who will be a truly helpful guide through my comps and dissertation.
     My other good news of the day is that one of my Wednesday classes is cancelled for next week, which means today is the last time I ever have to have my 2 grad classes, 5 straight hours of class, hell day.  Since they run from 1 to 6, and my worst fatigue is in the early/mid afternoon, today has been really hard on me.  Fortunately, today is the only day I've had both classes meet since the fatigue has been really bad, and it won't ever happen again this semester, so I feel like this, too, has worked out really well for my pregnancy.  Honestly, I feel like I couldn't have timed this any better!
     Well, that's all for today....
April 18, 2002     8w3d
Awful Dream
   Well, I had an awful dream last night, and it's got me in a really weird mood today.  I dreamt that I was miscarrying.  I was gushing blood, but no one would take me to the ER.  Mom and Nate were there, and they kept finding reasons not to leave yet.  Unfortunately, I woke up in the middle of it, which made it all the more vivid.  The first couple of weeks I knew I was pregnant, I had miscarriage nightmares practically nightly, but I hadn't had one in awhile, so this really freaked me out.  I immediately got up to go to the bathroom to make sure everything was OK, and of course it was. :)  But I'm also having this weird pain in my lower abs today, like I did an ab workout yesterday.  I'm sure it's probably something pretty normal, just my uterus growing or something, but I haven't found an answer yet, so in the post-nightmare mood I'm in, it's got me worried.
     On a more fun note, Nate and I went back to Baby Depot today to look at stuff.  I think it's our first trip since I got that Baby Bargains book, so it was the first time I've really known what I was looking for.  They had the infant carrier we want, and it seems pretty nice.  Better yet, they had a whole bunch of cribs by Childcraft, Simmons, and Babi Italia, which are the 3 brands we're most interested in.  We found one we really loved - of course, it was one of the more expensive ones! - but we just really don't want to buy from Baby Depot.  They have a "no returns" policy, even if the product is defective.  They only give in-store credit.  That might be OK for smaller purchases, but it seems like a big risk with bigger ones.  And their customer service is just generally awful.  We've been there at least 5 times, often for 20 minutes or more, and never once had anyone ask if they could help us.  Oh well, the one we liked best was a Childcraft, which is the manufacturer that has an outlet down by Aunt Cindy's place, so we're going to visit there in June and see if they happen to have that model or a similar one for a better price.  If not, at least we have a better idea what we're looking for when we go shopping in Chicago.
     Well, that's it for today!  I hope that ab pain doesn't mean anything bad...
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