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Marriage and Family Workshops

The Lamberts are available to conduct workshops and Seminars on the topics listed below.  If you are interested in topics not found below feel free to contact us.  New workshops are being created all the time.

Why We Act the Way We Do

Sometimes we act like a Parent, sometimes like a Child and sometimes like an Adult.  A subtitle for this workshop is "We Are A Threesome." Together we study the three Ego States that dominate our lives. The Child part of us enables us to have fun and love life, but if it isn't kept in check by the Adult  it can cause us a lot of trouble.  The Parent part, learned from our early caregivers, can play a constructive role, but also has a dark side usually characterized by criticism.  The criticism can be directed to others, including spouse and children, or it can be directed toward self.  Either way, the Critical parent can be very destructive to healthy family dynamics.  The key is to live our lives from the Adult state.  In this workshop participants are taught to detect in which ego state they are operating at any given moment, and how to 'change chairs.'  When the Adult is in charge, life is best.  The Adult part is that part that hears from the Lord and responds appropriately.  Using this model one can become a better husband or wife.  Handouts, outlines, transparencies and props are utilized. One to five hours.

Thoughts Cause Feelings and they Mess up Communication Too. 

Poor communication skills are always destructive to the quality of a marriage. Almost always when emotions become involved in the communication process, communication breaks down.  Individuals learn clever ways to stop communication when the process becomes uncomfortable for them.  In this workshop common stumbling blocks to communication are examined. Participants will learn how to identify the dynamics that destroy communication and will learn how to replace the stumbling blocks with better skills.  Handouts, outlines, transparencies and props are utilized. One to five hours.

Amazing Love

On a scale of one to ten, one being as bad as it can get, and ten being as good as it gets, participants in this workshop are asked to rate the state of their union.  This workshop includes instruction and training in simple yet powerful techniques that, when implemented in the marriage, can take a marriage to the highest levels of joy and satisfaction.  Handouts, outlines, transparencies and props are utilized. One to five hours.

Chart Your Course

It is most often the case that one lives his history over and over again, the past determining the future.  Some people, however, break from this trend. Couples who have extraordinary marriages have learned to go out into the future and decide just what kind of marriage they want to have.  Participants in this workshop will lean how to do just that.  Couples will spend time defining just what they want their marriage to be in one, five, and ten years from now.  They will identify  what behaviors have to be eliminated from the Family Dance and what behaviors need to be added that will result in an Extraordinary Marriage.  Participants will learn how to take charge of their future rather than continuing to let the past determine what kind of marriage they will have.  Handouts, outlines, transparencies and props are utilized. One to five hours.

It Takes More Than Love

We live in a fast paced throwaway culture. Marriages today are often built on passionate love.  That's great in the beginning, but too often, in the heat of an argument, passionate love is out the window, and rage and anger move in to take its place.  In this workshop participants will learn that commitment is the essential ingredient to maintaining passionate love and making long-term, high quality marriages possible.  Participants will learn Biblical Principles and techniques essential to living life with emotions under control.  Handouts, outlines, transparencies and props are utilized. One to five hours.

Communication, the Essential Ingredient to a Stable Marriage

Two income families, financial commitment, moving up the corporate ladder, children, making ends meet... stress from all directions negatively impact quality communication in the marriage.  In this workshop participants will be taught to identify the negative stressors that tend to erode good communication and positive characteristics that contribute to good quality communication.  The two essential ingredients to good communication, assertiveness and active listening will be discussed, illustrated and taught. "To listen with the intent to understand rather than the intent to respond" is the corner stone of this workshop.  Handouts, outlines, transparencies and props are utilized. One to five hours.

Our Needs are Different

"Why wouldn't she like a new truck for Valentine's Day?  Makes perfect sense to me!"  What's wrong with that statement?  What does it mean, "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.  Did he grow up on another planet?"  In this active fun-filled workshop the differences between brides and grooms are examined.  Participants will learn how the different perspectives of the future held by brides and grooms at the altar impact marriage.  We will examine our most important differences.  Participants learn that they live with an expert on what the opposite sex wants from the marriage.  Handouts, outlines, transparencies and props are utilized. One to five hours.

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