If you hang around people who are in this lifestyle you would see alot of subs wearing collars. Actually all you have to do is go to your nearby mall or maybe look at your kid. But I assure you that why Subs wear them and your children do are very different reasons.You'll see in a min. Inside this BDSM lifestyle collars are as important as a wedding ring. When a sub gives him/herself to you, to do as you see fit, it is a very special gift. It shouldn't be taken lightly. Submission is not an invitation for you to use as a doormat and wipe you feet on them. When you are asked to wear a ring on your finger the feeling you get can be compared to that of a subs collar. When you love someone so much and are asked to marry them the same applies to the collar and is often abused or misused. A collar is not somthing you wear today and in a week or two take off no more then your wedding ring. Too many people, especially online abuse this ritual. They think just cause they have a leather jacket and call themselves a Dom/Domme that you should do their bidding. You can't force someone to love you. When a sub accepts a collar, the bond between sub and Master is intensified. The trust is higher that the Master will do his/her best to guide the sub in the right direction. The devotion of the sub to serve the Master is very important on his/her mind.It is also very important on the Masters mind to see that their service and devotion is not over looked, or taken for granted. When I asked Kitty to wear mine ,I knew that she was someone who not only deserved it but would be happy wearing it. For now its as if we were married and thats how we approach our life.Today you can see many, mostly women wearing a collar in public. More often then not it's just a dressing or and accessorie.
And for some reason the new age of the leather community seems to forget that a sub in group or at a party wearing a collar is probably spoken for and "Leather Ethics" dictate they they should approcah the sub accordingly.* Leather Ethics like basic Ethics are just a way of behaving when in certian settings.* Like you dont try to pick up a married woman who is escorted by her husband, well you dont try to pick up another Masters sub either. I could go on and on about this but thats another day.
But just like there are different wedding ceremonies you will find different ones for collaring and just like weddings are serious so is collaring.... Robert
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