"I was wondering what you or anyone really, would be thinking in regards to what characterises 'taking charge of a woman.'"
I meant take charge in the D/s and traditional marriage sense; that he is the head of the woman as christ is head of the church.
"There's a HUGE difference between submissive and inferior (or dominate and superior for that matter). And that's where BDSM enters the picture. BDSM gives men, and some women, the opportunity to be mentally and/or physically dominate over someone who wants to be dominated in that fashion."
"Not enjoying being dominant, but enjoying the role of submissive and the mindset, I am completely in the dark about what Dominants enjoy about being dominant."
The Dom's of my personal aquaintance (all of two) get off on two completely different things. W gets off on control. It is tremendously appealing to him to tell a woman what to wear and see her in it; to train and guide her movements and words as they relate to him. M gets off on knowing this woman who wears his collar will intuitively know how to serve him when. He likes the helpless tied up slave motif for fun but for day to day, he like to know that she will do everything she can to please him with or with not direct guidence from him. I actually prefer the first to the second (there's a lot less guesswork involved) but I'm slooooooooowly learning to adapt to M's style.
"At one point when I was trying to justify submission to myself"
"I don't know why, but I've never had to "justify" submission or bdsm to myself."
I went through cycles of feeling tremendously guilty about BDSM and being proud of it. During the guilty point in the cycle, I worked very hard at ignoring BDSM all together. During the proud phase, I wanted to know if BDSM and christianity really were compatible. Even knowing they were, I still went through periods of guilt until I found Yahoo BDSM Christians. I did not know of a single other person who was a believer and involved in BDSM. The fact that for close to four years I felt like the only one made me feel guilty.
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