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Mood: confused Fact of the day: First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt is known to have had a female lover, in addition to her husband. event of the week start of school...sigh...
It's been a long time since I last had a good conversation with Lynn. So when we finally had a nice get-together two days ago, I was happy. She's just got attached, and has become even more private than before. Even when she was still single, she's been kinda reclusive, and I don't really hang out with her a lot then. Not to mention now that she's with the guy most of the time. Hehe. Anyway, we had a nice "update-on-each-other's-lives" talk recently and I really liked that.
But it still makes me feel a little uneasy to hang out with her too much when the guy is around. I feel like I'm depriving them of their personal space, and from my experience, I think they don't really know how they should behave in front of friends either. So perhaps it's then best to not be the "third party". Ahem.
It's such a coincidence then that today, I received an email from another friend, who complains about this common friend of ours who just found a new boyfriend. Apparently, the girl has since then also neglected all other friends and practically followed the guy around. Sigh. I can totally understand how new couples want to spend as much time together as possible. But I also know that it's really not a good idea. Both for friendships sake, and for the couples' sake too.
What if anything should go wrong? I just feel like it'll be hypocritical for the girl to come crawling back to her friends after the guy dumps her and similarly, for the guy to go back to the friends he's neglected or something. Not trying to curse my friends, but hypothetically, in terms of stability, family relationships are most stable, followed from friendships, then finally followed by romantic relationships. So shouldn't it make more sense to not lean too much on a structure that's not that stable?
Oh well, just something I've been thinking about eversince the days of ws. I've never managed to separate myself from my friends and I've never allowed myself to just totally indulge in just romantic love, without thinking about my friends at all. Perhaps it says something. It says that perhaps I didn't love him that much. Or this might be a reason for us breaking up. Or perhaps it's just saying I'm not that much of a good girlfriend afterall.
Just something I'm pondering about. Not that it'll be that relevant to my life right now...afterall, I'm still single, godamnit! Hahaha..
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