| Safewords |
| A safeword is a word or set of words (that a submissive and Dominant decide together) that a submissive or slave would use if a scene or play ever goes beyond what s/he can handle or if somthing should go wrong. |
| For example, you and your Dominant are in the middle of a scene and suddenly you have an anxiety attack (not just normal fear, but an absolute panicking state that can cause many problems), you would call out your safeword. Because this word has been decided on before hand between the both of you (and reminded of daily) it would be an immediate and automatic stop sign for your Dominant. |
| Your safeword should be a word you both will remember, but wouldn't normally use during play. For example - using the word "Stop" would not be a good Idea. Many people use their full name as their safeword. A word you normally wouldn't use in the bedroom. |
| Many people become so adapt to their partners natural ways after a long time of play together and just know when somthing isn't right, however, many say that it's still a good Idea to keep a safeword handy, just in case. |
| There is also the argument that safewords are pointless. Many believe that they are only a mere safety blanket for the submissive or slave, and that they are ineffective for many reasons: (In which I agree with) |
| That a submissive or slave might abuse the power of a safeword, thus giving the argument of who's in control. |
| That if a scene is really intense, how would a submissive be coherent enough to say his/her safeword, or even differ between pleasure and pain. (sub - space) |
| What if s/he is bound and gagged? |
| That the Dominant should know His/Her submissive well enough to notice if somthing isn't right, and if S/He does not know that sub/slave well enough, howcome S/He is doing a risky scene with him/her where s/he would need a safeword? |
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| Written by sheltered vixen, 2002 |
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