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| Honesty - The thrid key |
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| Honesty is being completely truthful, direct and assertive with your partner, leaving nothing unsaid or purposely misinterpreted. |
| If one is not honest, the communication isn't total, the trust is put into jeopardy, damaged or hindered. along with causing a tension in the relationship, which may even break it. |
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| If one is completely honest, it reduces the chances of misfortune and disapointment, while continueing and adding to the already recognized trust and communication, resulting in development of the couple's relationship. |
| Dishonesty not only hurts the victim, but the instigator as well. It can leave the victim feeling used and disrespected, and leave the individual who was dishonest, or deceptive feeling guilty. |
| A word of warning, there are many people on the internet who are dishonest because they feel they are protected by their computer screen, like they are in fantasy land and no-one will ever know different (from what they lied about). Think before you lie to someone, maybe you will end up meeting that person someday, or the truth will eventually slip out and you'll find yourself in a very sticky, uncomfortable situation and it may be you that ends up getting hurt from your own deception. (I'm not saying that you would lie, I would just like to get this out because I have been taken into this trickery on occasions and it caused many problems). |
| Furthermore, honesty contributes to one's own safety. For example, if one lies about the things on his/her BDSM checklist, just so it says what they think the Dom/me wants to hear, they'll end up being pushed through some limits they are uncomfortable with and get hurt, either emotionally or physically. |
| As a slave, I can tell you that getting everything out, even the bad and embarassing, not only strengthens the relationship, but also can be very freeing to one's mind and soul. |
| Written by shelteredvixen, 2002 |
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