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In a D/s relationship, many things need to be established then put into continued use in order to make the relationship happy, healthy, safe and successful. One of these key components is communication.

Communication - The first key

In order to have total communication, the couple must let go of all their pride and be able to speak about anything and everything, even the embarassing and unspoken. If there is no conditioned line of daily communication (which is why journals are so great), how will the Dom/me know what the submissive wants, doesn't want, needs and what s/he would like to accomplish. Lack of communication is what causes misunderstandings or unhealthy objectives for the individuals involved.

Communication can be in many different forms - journals, voice, touching, gesturing and writing. All these forms works with one another and aren't intended to contradict each other, making it an easy, open line for the communication to flow. Speaking, Gesturing and touching are all very personal forms of informing the other individual where your mindset, body, feelings and general life are at. Journals and writing notes are more of an impersonal line of communication, however, they can be a very good resourse to get those unspoken or embarassing things out. I also find I am more free in what I am saying when it's written, which allows me to be completely honest. Most people in the D/s lifestyle are quite assertive, and strong enough to initiate that deep communication, anyway.

written by sheltered vixen, 2002

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