He eventually wakes up and wanders into the kitchen as she is stepping out the door in her robe and slippers to put out the trash. He says to her �Honey, I said I�d get that�. She throws down the trash, stomps back to the bedroom and slams the door. He sits at the kitchen table upset that she hadn�t yet started his morning brew and chuckles to himself �Must be that time of the month!�.
Everyday is that time of the month for a woman in a relationship with a man. Women aren�t allowed to have bad days. We aren�t allowed to get upset. We aren�t allowed to show any emotion. Well, I�m here to tell you boys that the scenario I just wrote about most women can tell you it has happened to them in some shape or fashion! It may not be the maggot carpet, or the stale and decaying trash. It may be the fact that you have forgotten an important date. Or not doing something she has asked you to do in a timely fashion.
To avoid problems, I�m here to tell you how to get around the outbreaks of emotion.
First, if she asks you to do something, do it then, not later. The more time that elapses, the more times she has to come to you, only to hear an excuse why you cannot do it now. This only adds fuel to the fire.
Secondly, if days go by and you still haven�t done it, you better get ready for WWIII! And you better hope she isn�t having �that time of the month�!
Third, buying flowers or doing something nice may work a few times during the �honeymoon� phase, but believe me, all the little nasty items build up.
Fourth, listen to her. And I mean REALLY listen. Hopefully by the time you are asked to do things for a woman, you obviously are in a relationship and know the woman. How is she talking? Tone of voice, body language and pitch all play a part here. If you can tell that this is something that is very important to her, then it should be important to you. If you keep her happy, she will try harder to keep you happy.
I remember a time when I was once in a relationship with a guy who made a point of doing small things to let me know I was important to him. Yes, we had our moments when the trash wasn�t put out when I wanted it to be, or the toilet bowl resembled modern art. But I could always look beyond those little things at the big picture. Every night before bed, he�d turn out the lights, crawl into bed next to me, kiss me and say �Sweet dreams� then slide his hand into mine. I fell asleep hand-in-hand with him. It�s a silly simple gesture, but it went a long way in eyes. I wasn�t so quick to lay blame with him. Many times I�d go ahead and take out the trash or clean the toilet myself.
One night after a binge drinking session, he turn to me after I held his head above the toilet and asked �why do you always take care of me when I�m like this?�. the answer was simple, �cause I love you! And you make me believe every night, that I�m a princess!�.
Now Shawn is out of my life, but the remnants still remain. If a man shows me a little common decency and will go out of his way for me, I go out of my way for him! I do miss the hand holding at bed time, but I�m sure that someday I�ll find a man that will be receptive to my needs without chuckling that it must be my �time of the month�!
