Dear Friend,

OK so I'm a chicken; I should have talked to you in person. It is unfair to send you a 'dear john' letter but I would not, within sight, find the strength of will to walk away, I could not, within such close proximity, stand firm.

I have you to thank for teaching me to have a friend, to be a friend. I have another to thank for showing me exactly what it is I want in a special friend. Although neither of you are available to be that special friend, you both have my undying appreciation, my unconditional love for the gift you have given me.

I wish I could continue to share that gift with you as I have in the past but I find in myself a certain need for someone whose world revolves around me, someone to share all the aspects of my life - the good, the bad, the mundane, the exciting, the kids, everything. For me, intimacy now requires a soulmate as well as a playmate in that one special person and I have found a determined strength, a resolute selfishness to wait for exactly that.

Please know that you have done nothing wrong. I simply now know what I truly want in my life and it is more than our relationship has to offer, so I will say goodbye for now.

Bn.