
Simple Etiquette
Cultural etiquette has been described as the unspoken
but assumed behavior that conveys politeness. Therefore it
is important that you take the time to learn about and follow
"local etiquette". In Indonesia, there are a few
specific rules that visitors should be sure to know about
and follow.
Never hand anything
to an Indonesian with your left hand. As in most
Islamic countries the left hand is considered "unclean"
and thus insulting. If this makes the action somewhat cumbersome
by having to change hands, take the time to do it anyway.
Handshaking is customary for both men and women on introduction
and greeting. Indonesians will frequently touch one or both
hands to their chest after shaking hands as a sign of sincerity.
There are a few differences
in the use of hands and feet for indicating actions or getting
attention. The proper way to summon someone is to use one
of the Indonesian words Pak, Mas, (for men) and Bu, Mbak (for
women) and make a scooping motion toward you with your hand,
fingers facing down. Crooking the index finger as is common
in the West is not polite here.
Also, be aware of where &
how you position your feet. Exposing the sole of your shoe
is considered impolite as is pointing with your foot to indicate
an object. Shoes should be removed when entering mosques or,
usually, when entering someone's home. If you are unsure,
ask.
Be aware that emotional displays
of any emotion are considered rude.
Women should avoid wearing
halter tops or shorts as well as tight fitting or revealing
clothes in public.
Lastly, visitors should keep
in mind the importance of status in Indonesian society. In
Indonesia everyone has status, but that status is situational.
A street vendor or cab driver may have very high status in
his home community either through leadership ability or religious
training. Try to understand the different situations that
arise in day to day activity and modify your personal behavior
to meet those situations appropriately.