Communication:

Listening skill involve understanding & acceptance of difference in personality & taste.
The truth is how you want to see it.
Silence is golden. Be silent especially when you feel angry. The outcome of an emotional outburst is more likely to be a negative experience for you.
What you perceive to be the truth & the truth itself can be 2 very different things. So a little self doubt can be good for you.
I can be nice sometimes, but then I get over it.
Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you are a mile away from them, and you have their shoes.

Decision Making:

Sometimes you think you know, but you don't. And that is when you make the big mistakes.
You may be your own biggest enemy. The biggest wound is often self inflicted.
Creative people believe the answer worth getting are not in the book.
The past is the lesson of life. It can be used to guide future action & plan.
It is better to be approximately right than precisely wrong.
No one knows what to do because it never happen to them before.
When you don't know what to do, delay & gather more information if you have the time.
What works in 1 situation may not work in another.
If something is likely to go wrong, it probably will.
There is no such thing as a sure thing in this world.
A bad decision is made because of a lack of good information.
I used to be indecisive, now I'm not sure.

Happiness:

A full 40 percent of our happiness is within our control. 50 percent is determined by genetics.
The remaining 10 percent is dictated by circumstance—like a recent divorce or a financial windfall.
Happiness is about wanting and managing what you already have.
Don't look to a man or a woman for your happiness. Happiness has to come from within yourself first.
To live your life in anger, envy, fear, hate, self pity & shyness is to live in a self made prison.
Learn from mistakes. Don't let mistake to discourage you.
Show appreciation: give a reminder you love someone today.
Accept criticism. See criticism not as a problem but as an opportunity to improve.
Be thankful for problems. When you can't change them, change your attitude.
Forgive your enemy. If you want true peace of mind.
Live life to the fullest. You can die tomorrow.
The grass is usually not greener on the other side.
Happiness is taking what you have and making it into what you want.
Tomorrow will be a better day. If not, you will die happy being positive. Better die happy than live in suffering.
Without objective, life can become boring and meaningless.
Life is short. So don't live your life in the past or in the future. Live it in the present. Live it to the fullest.
The secret of life is to enjoy the passage of time.
Can anyone remember when time was not hard & money was not scarce? So don't worry and make yourself happy. At the end of your life, you will realize that it is the right thing to do. You will live a happier life that way.
You need to have variety in life, without it, life feels boring.
For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.
The sense of being able to have control over your life contribute to a sense of happiness.
Happiness is not getting what you want, it is wanting what you have.
For content people, time is planned & filled.
Your brain will get tired of the best of everything. Variety in life is important to keep you happy.
Life is always full of uncertainties no matter what your economic status is. So it is better to learn to live with uncertainties than to worry about them.
You can not tell happiness until you experience sadness.
As long as you are healthy & free, you should be happy.
A perfectionist is more likely to be unhappy over all in life than a more moderate person.
 

Life:

Tough time never last. Tough people do.
You have a destiny. And you must play the cards you are dealt with.
Life is suffering, paradoxical, relative & fragile.Temptation and desire are often the cause of suffering.
No one can tell the future, not even the experts.
Sometimes life seems hopeless, but keep in mind that it can be worse.
Disaster usually happen when you don't expect it.
What you need and what you want can be 2 different things. So get only what you need, not what you want.
The more involved you get into something or someone, the more obsessed a person you will become.
There is your plan and there is destiny's plan and your plan often does not matter in the end.
Money is there for you to use, don't let it to use you .
Knowing the right thing to do & being able to do it are 2 very different things.
Never take anything for granted.
The challenge in life is to play the hand you are dealt with.
No rule shall be carved in stones. You have to be flexible as times change.
A friend today, an enemy tomorrow. A hero today a clown tomorrow.

Marriage and Relationship:

While we expect marriage to be happily ever after, the truth is that for most people, neither marriage nor divorce seem to have
a decisive impact on happiness. Although some research shows that married people are happier than their single counterparts,
other studies have found that after a couple years of marriage, people are just about as happy (or unhappy) as the were before settling down. And assuming that marriage will automatically provide contentment is itself a surefire recipe for misery.
Marriage is not supposed to make you happy. It is supposed to make you married.
When you are all the way in your marriage, you are free to do useful things, to become a better person.
A committed relationship allows you to drop pretenses and seductions, expose your weaknesses, be yourself, and know that you will be loved, warts and all.
The realization that we’re not going to get everything we want from a partner is not just sobering, it’s downright miserable. But it is also a necessary step in building a mature relationship.
All marriages are incompatible. All marriages are between people from different families, people who have a different view of things. The magic is to develop binocular vision, to see life through your partner’s eyes as well as through your own.
Marriage is a disagreement machine. All couples disagree about all the same things. Discord springs eternal over money, kids, sex and leisure time. We have a highly romanticized notion that if we were with the right person, we wouldn’t fight.
When your girlfriend's personality make you unhappy. Don't try to change her personality. Change yours. And if you
can not, then it is time to consider parting way.
All marriages are imperfect, a disappointment in one way or another.
In a relationship, both sides want to control the other.
We devote tremendous energy to trying to find the perfect partner.
People marry primarily to breed .
We ask so much of a relationship, romance, passion, friendship that disappointment is unavoidable.
The most stressful time for most couple is parenthood.
Couple in a troubled relationship may be susceptible to mental & physical illness.
If you are not a happy man by yourself, then you are not going to be a happy man when married.
Stressful conflict between husband and wife may suppress the immune system.
A relationship can bring happiness or it can bring hell or both.
To be in love is to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia, to mistake a woman for a god.
Without mutual respect, contempt is just around the corner for most couple ->the end of the relationship.
In real life, couple don't "live happily ever after". That kind of ending only happens in a Hollywood movie...
Love is like war: easy to begin, hard to end.
Getting married is an incredible act of hopefulness.

Psychology:

Fear can often be your own worst enemy. There is nothing to fear but fear itself. You should have no fear, not even death. Because sometimes, dying is easier than living. We all have to die in order to live.
The more you want something or someone, the more likely you will suffer.
People's behavior, intelligence, and character are mostly influenced by their genes. So don't be so angry when you feel you are being treated unfairly by someone.
There are 3 distinct types of social behaviors. Passive, aggressive and assertive. You want to be assertive and not the other two. Don't be confused between assertive behavior (good) and aggressive behavior (bad).
Our genes determine who we are and much of our behaviors.
When you start to learn something new, it is often frustrating at first.
Many of our need & desire are biological.
Your state of mind can affect your physical health.
It is easy to gain knowledge, but it is difficult to change personality.
People character are not either black or white.
No one can give you peace of mind but yourself.
One size fit all psychology will not work.
What you want & what you think you want can be 2 different things.
Sometimes you simply don't know you know what you really want.
Overcrowding & extreme temperatures are often stressful for most people.
Waiting for Christmas is better than Christmas itself.
There are both moral & practical reasons to be honest & modest (friendship, peace of mind).

Self Respect:

Self respect = Success/Expectation.
Stand firmly for your conviction in the face of pressure.
Give others credit they deserve.
Be honest and open about who you really are.
You need to know who you are & what you want.
Don't measure your self worth based on money or how much posession you own.
Don't let other people to define the senses of your self worth or who you are.

Success & Money:

The key to accumulating wealth is to consistently spend less than you earn over time.
A key attribute a successful person must possess is independent type thinking. In fact most successful people in
any business are independent thinkers. This often requires going against the crowd and establishing a point of view
different from the norm. It means that you should not listen too much to the "experts".
The first rule of job-hunting is to make sure you are in good financial shape. So you can walk into an interview from
a place of power. The more you want the job, the more desperate you appear to be.
A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between does what he wants to do.
Enjoy your job. Otherwise, it will be hard for you to be successful at what you are doing.
Always keep your integrity.
Anger will always make everything else worse.
Remember: It's easy to get into a good business deal, but it's hard to get out of a bad one.
Keep working. It keeps you young.
Stay modest.
Take full responsibility for your life.
Living life on purpose.
Write out a plan.
Be willing to pay the price. Success take hard work.
Become an expert. Improve your skill.
Never give up. Giving up is not even an option.
Don't delay. You don't live forever.
Over confidence and cockiness are sure ways to bring about your own downfall.
Sometimes the difference between success & failure is your ability to deal with fear.
Success can create its own problem, success tend to bring about arrogance & complacency.
The key to success is to avoid catastrophic errors (plan for the downside).
Arrogance & the attitude that you know everything will bring you failures & misfortunes.
With knowledge come opportunity, with perseverance come success.
Be modest when you are successful and be positive when you fail.
Sometimes having success means you just happen to be at the right place at the right time. If you fail in life despite doing your best, accept it as your destiny. You will be happier that way.
People get stuck by trying the same ineffective approach over & over.
Sometimes you don't know what the solution is until you try different approaches, however consider the risk/reward factor before you take any action.
Many times, what make you successful is just being at the right place at the right time.
There is no use running if you are on the wrong road.
Take care of the cost and the profit will take care of itself.
Don't take on the financial responsibility of anything that eats.
Build coalitions. There are strengths in numbers.
The way to have the advantage is to go against conventional thinking.
When you get the entrepreneurial urge, visit someone who has his own business.
Sometimes it is not important what you know but whom you know.
Keep your mind open to opportunity.
Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today.

Work:

One of the symptoms of an approaching nervous breakdown is the belief that one's work is terribly important.
A good job is what you make of it.
I don't work here. I am a consultant.
The brain is a wonderful organ. It starts working the moment you get up in the morning, and does not stop until you get into the office.
I don't have anything against work. I just figure, why deprive somebody who really loves it.
I have long been of the opinion that if work were such a splendid thing the rich would have kept more of it for themselves.
He worked like hell in the country so he could live in the city, where he worked like hell so he could live in the country.
Life is just a dirty four-letter word: W-O-R-K.
Work for the fun of it, and the money will arrive some day. If not, you die happy anyway.
Work relieves us from three great evils, boredom, vice, and desires.
No labor, however humble, is dishonoring.
A woman's work is never done, especially the part she asks her husband to do.
I love the work; I could sit and look at it for hours.
If you are a temporary worker, you are a temporary eunuch too.


Arnold Beckman's 7 rules of livings:


1. Absolute integrity in everything.
2. There is no satisfactory substitute for excellence.
3. Moderation in everything, including moderation.
4. Hire the best people, then get out of their way.
5. Don't be afraid of making mistakes; if you're not making mistakes, you're probably not doing very much.
6. Acquire new knowledge and always ask 'why.'
7. Don't take yourself too seriously.




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