1. Insist on meeting couple to couple. Don't give your
address until you know the couple. We'd suggest you initially meet at a
neutral location, say a pub. We keep a mobile phone specifically for swinging
(the "hotline").
2. Most couples meeting for the first time will smalltalk nervously at first.
Don't be coy. Speak frankly about what you'd like. If you're brave enough,
questions like "how many couples have you fucked in the last year?"
establish if they really do swing.
3. After meeting, discuss it with your partner, and decide if they are for
you both. Always phone or email them back to say yes or no. It's polite.
And if it's no, it's perfectly OK to say "we thought you were nice
people, but the chemistry wasn't quite right for us.".
We wouldn't want to put you off swinging; these are just sensible suggestions
to help you enjoy swinging without any problems.
Breaking the ice. It's sometimes difficult to break the ice once
you've got to that bed. We find the best way is to make love to your own
partner first. We usually take the initiative and strip off, then slowly
touch, feel and then make love to each other. Then we suggest (if they havn't
already) that they join us in bed. Most couples find it very sexy to be
next to a  couple making
love, and find it natural to strip off and make love themselves. Once there
are two couples making love, the hands can wander! The feeling of an extra
pair of hands from the other couple touching nipples or running over a clitoris,
or their fingers reaching between your legs and slowly stroking anything
hot and wet is truly mindblowing.
If it all goes well, at some point we like to just say "would you like
to swap partners?".
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