 |
 |
|
|
|
|
Of all sexual acts, anal sex is the most misunderstood, but once you learn the right techniques, anal sex can be intensely pleasurable, both for women (about 1 in 4 women have had anal sex) and for guys as well. For swingers, it opens up the door to some of the rudest and "dirtiest" sex you can have! For us, anal sex has been at the core of our relationship since we met, and both of us enjoy anal sex as part of our swinging sexlife. Suzie has regularly received anal for 17 years, with no problems of any sort, and Ross for about 5 (at Suzie's suggestion!). Common (and unfounded) fears are that anal sex is harmful and unhealthy, that it is a perverted, unnatural act, or that it is enjoyed only by homosexuals. In fact, anal sex is safe, given reasonable precautions, and has been an accepted heterosexual practice for centuries. It's also been our experience that many guys enjoy receiving or giving anal sex with other guys - they just don't admit to it! Women also worry about "leaking" - it never happens if you start with a vissit to the toilet. Learn the proper techniques prior to trying it; that way your partner should find it enjoyable. And discuss it with your partner - it's important to decide jointly that thhis is something that you wish to explore with your partner. The keys are education, relaxation, lubrication and slow
penetration Education. For good anal sex, you need to understand the anatomy of your partner's arsehole. Take an interest in it! Have a close look - in fact, have a look at each other's. Though it appears small and tight, it is capable of stretching enough to accommodate one or more fingers, a range of toys or any size penis, and is exquisitely sensitive to touch and stretching. There can be a wonderful feeling of "fullness" during anal sex play. Before you start, spend some time looking at it. Stroke it gently, and watch the muscles tense. Relaxation: Many women are put off anal sex for good by a partner's forced entry into the arse. Take your time! The arsehole is surrounded by a ring of muscle, which will automatically tighten whenever something is pushed into it. The most important part of anal sex is to learn to relax the arsehole, making anal sex easy and pleasurable. Practice by using a well lubricated finger to gently stretch your own arsehole. Your anus does not produce its own natural lubrication, so for anal sex always use lots of water-based lubricants to increase your pleasure. Applying KY Jelly with fingers works fine, but use lots and lots, and try to work it well up the arsehole with your fingers. Opening up. For the nervous,
an exercise that helps is to initially learn how to "open up".
Practice with your partner. Put your own finger at the entrance to your
arsehole then "push" just like when you are having a shit. You
will feel the arsehole open slightly, and let the tip of your finger in.
Now clamp it down hard, just like if you're trying hard not to shit. It
will close onto your finger; keep it as hard closed as you can for say 30
seconds then relax. Try this several times, each time you relax and push
down you will feel the arsehole open slightly more readily. This will build
up your confidence in allowing it to expand slowly, accommodating whatever
is being inserted into it - try with two of your own fingers. When you are
ready, get your partner to press their finger gently against the arsehole,
and repeat the exercise. Soon you will be able to accommodate one, two or
three of your partner's fingers up the arse. It's also worth playing with
a small dildo or butt plug to increase confidence in being penetrated. It's
worth practising this exercise for several nights, or until you are comfortable
with being penetrated. Penetration. When you're ready for it, take your time and go slowly during penetration (after applying generous amounts of personal lube; that way, the experience will be much more pleasurable. We find the easiest way is with the woman or guy receiving anal sex on his or her front, lying on the bed with the legs well apart, maybe with a small pillow under the hips to lift the arse up. The "doggie" position also works well. The guy should lubricate his cock well, head and all along the shaft), and place the head of his cock against the arsehole, pressing gently (GENTLY!!!!!) and pointing it roughly at the naval. Penetration is actually initiated by the guy or woman receiving the cock pushing back onto the cock as hard as they feel comfortable and opening their arsehole up, as above. At this point, Suzie often has a desire to "push her bottom back and open" to take the cock; women tend to naturally want to open for a cock; guys maybe have to learn. It feels a little unusual at first, or even uncomfortable, as the cock penetrates the arsehole, but eventually it "pops" through and when it is full length up the arse there is a wonderfully dirty feeling of being penetrated and fucked. Rest with the cock in, or slowly fuck - talk to each other, and remember that until you are experts slow grinding tends to work better than virile thrusts. Suzie likes her nipples and clit to be gently stimulated during anal. Anal sex shouldn't be painful. If it hurts, you are doing something wrong; relax, apply more lube and take your time! Both of us find anal sex intensely sexual and intimate.
Suzie loves the moment that Ross' cock pulsates in her arse as he comes.
An anal session leaves us completely sexually satisfied and in love with
each other. A few musts. Suzie and I love bareback anal sex with each other. But unprotected anal sex with strangers is high-risk sex. Always wear a well lubricated condom; after orgasm, hold the base of the condom while pulling out to prevent slippage or spillage. And don't mix straight and anal sex. If anal play precedes oral or vaginal sex, wash the cock carefully with warm soap and water. The bacteria that live in the anal area can produce infection or irritation if they transfer to another part of your body, so extra attention to cleanliness is important.
|
