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.Philosophical theorieS.

THE THEORY OF BEING HAPPY
When I was in a down period in my life, I asked myself to be strong and look on the bright side. But, where's the bright side you may ask. So I asked myself that very question. To me, the bright side lies in what I want for myself in my life, because that will always be a happy thing. And the people whom you love and those who love you will make you feel happy too. Those are all the bright sides of life. As long as you are happy, everything is considered bright. So, look to all those things and you will find the things you need to be happy. =D

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR STRENGTH TO GO ON
So, there will be times when you are doing something and find that you are overly stressed out. Then one day you stop and think about it and find that you really don't know why you are doing it and you wonder whether you should stop or continue. If that happens to me, this is what I will tell myself:

1. Take a deep breath
2. Think about what you want in life and the people whom you love or love you (to help you feel happier)
3. Ask yourself whether what you are currently doing will get you what you want in life (in some way or another)

4. If so, continue what you are doing and
5. Believe that you can do it
6. Look forward to after everything is completed
7. Take one step at a time and
8. Remember to relax sometimes

If not, just stop what you are doing. Anyway, you've decided that it's not gonna make you happy.

FALLING IN LOVE
People look and look and look for their better half. Most set their expectations before looking while some fall in love without thinking. For those who set their expectations, many do not realise that they might be looking in the wrong direction and find out too late. Those who fall in love without thinking are taking a chance, this might be what they want but it might also be the exact opposite of what they want. So, how then is the best way to find our better half?

I think the best is to have a mixture of both methods. One should definitely set some criteria of their perfect better half but when it comes to really meeting the guy, try to aim to fulfil about half of those criteria. Cos it's really hard to find the "perfect" man/woman. The other half will be the feeling you get when you are with him/her. That is called falling in love.

See, it is never good to be on the extremes. If all you have with the person is the feeling of falling in love, then he might not be the kind of person you want to spend you life with because he doesn't fulfil your criteria. Then again, if he fulfils all your criteria but you have no feeling of love when with him/her, then something is very wrong too.