I have been courting a Christian guy for a little under two years now. It has been a wonderful relationship, but there is one thing that has been bothering me that I have been praying for over a year about. He hangs out with a female friend, a non-Christian at times. She became his friend a few years before I met him. While I understand that the purpose of his friendship with her is to minister to her the gospel, there have been occasions where I feel as if she has acted inappropriate in my presence. Nothing serious, but things that bothered me. And now he sees her still every so often--dinner, basketball games, etc. My boyfriend and I have talked and prayed a lot about this issue, but it is still not resolved.

While I feel he should not lose her friendship, I can't help but be affected when they go out to dinner together or they do some function together or something, especially since we have to fight to see each other due to our busy schedules and when he meets with her I feel excluded. Also I think that she would learn a lot from an older Christian woman. We have talked about this issue so much, and besides the fact that he will see her in groups, there are no real conclusions.

Please tell me what you think, it would do us both a great deal of help. Also, I have no problem with my boyfriend hanging out with people of the opposite sex--we both do. I don't want to make it seem like I am controling or something. It is just his relationship with her, that makes me feel really uncomfortable. I would like to know what you think. Oh and I am 21, he is 22. Thanks.