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Erectile Dysfunction: practical tips
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Erectile
dysfunction: the partial or complete lack of a hard penis in times of need:
sex, masturbation or otherwise. If you've got erection problems, do not fret.
It's a common problem. First, answer this question:
If you answer
no, and there is no time when you are able to get an erection, then you may
have chronic erectile dysfunction. The problem may be a physical condition
such as injury, diabetes or a medication. Then see a doctor straight away.
So, if you
came twice today, have had a few drinks and try to have sex in a cold room,
you're going to have some trouble. Try to cut out these factors. Cold environment
Imagine
you're standing outside naked in the depth of winter. Now look down. Pretty
small huh? Your body is withdrawing blood from your skin to conserve heat and
energy. Getting an erection in this freezing environment will be difficult,
for any man. There's not much blood available to fill the penis for an
erection. Alcohol in your
system
A common
cause of erectile dysfunction. Alcohol is commonly used to 'loosen things up'
before sex or on a night out. Problem is, alcohol dilates (widens) your blood
vessels. If you manage to get an erection, the alcohol keeps the blood
vessels to your penis open, the blood drains out and you're left hanging in
limp land. Drugs, medications
Many drugs, prescribed or otherwise, can cause erectile
dysfunction. Recreational drugs that may cause erectile dysfunction include
(but are not limited to): Too many orgasms in
last few days or hours
If you are
young (mid 20s or younger) this won't affect you as much - guys under 25 or
so can have more orgasms without affecting their
mojo(libido).
However it
still could be a problem. Its simple: if you came 3
times today, and hour later try to have sex again, you might find it
difficult to get an erection. So, if you know you're probably going to have
sex on Friday, don't come for say two or three days beforehand. Then on
Friday you've a higher chance of a successful erection. This goes especially
for over 25s. Nervousness /
performance anxiety
Worrying will
get you nowhere. If you're nervous about 'performing' or satisfying your
partner, or if its your first time with a new
partner, nervousness could cause erectile dysfunction. Let's face it, not being able to get an erection is a serious dent in
your pride. If you've had erectile dysfunction before, worrying about it
might cause you to get it again. Solution: relax. Take your time, give your partner lots of pleasure through foreplay,
g-spot stimulation and clit sex. If you're worried about premature
ejaculation, this can be completely solved using male orgasm control
techniques. These will give you more than ample performance in the bedroom.
Stay calm, relaxed, and confident. Stress / physical
tiredness
A serious
cause of erectile dysfunction. Stress from financial problems, relationships,
family and work are bad for erection performance. Stress zaps your physical energy
so when you finally get to the bedroom you're ready for nothing but sleep. If
this is you then forget about sex. Go to sleep to recharge your batteries. If
you still have problems with erectile dysfunction even when you have plenty
of time, stress could still be a cause. Don't rush into intercourse. A deep
relaxing massage (receiving or giving) followed by lots and lots and lots of
foreplay can work wonders for erections. DON'T start thinking about whether
you can get an erection or not. Relax. Escape. Forget about work or other
worries for now. Just let it come. No direct physical
contact with the penis
It seems
obvious but there it is: the penis needs constant direct physical contact to
stay erect. As soon as your penis loses all contact (with hand / person / bed
clothes or anything) you are going to lose the erection sooner or later.
Think about this: no man on the planet, no matter how young or horny, can get
an erection, stand up and keep the erection absolutely solid for more than
say 2 minutes without some kind of physical contact. Try it. Impossible. So,
apply this to your normal sex play. If you're kissing, foreplaying
etc, but your penis has no direct contact, when you try to go straight to
penetration, it's not work. Get some direct stimulation from hands or body.
Also take note of positions (see below) and watch out when putting on a
condom: Break in contact
when putting on a condom
So, you've kissed, massaged, foreplayed, oralled, g-spotted and clitted.
Everything is just perfect, you've got a solid erection and you're both ready
for some hot sex. You jump out of bed, go to the drawer, take out a box of
condoms, undo the plastic wrap, open the box, take one out, tear the top off
the wrapper, gently tease out the condom, turn it the right way around even
though its dark, hold the tip of the condom between your forefinger and
thumb, and guess what? Limper than a piece of wet rope on the
The missionary
position
Not a cause
of erectile dysfunction exactly, but more of an aggravator of it.
Unfortunately the missionary is one of the worst positions to attempt
penetration if you have problems with erectile dysfunction. It comes from the
amount of contact with the penis. As just mentioned, the penis needs constant
direct physical contact to stay erect. In the missionary, just before you
attempt penetration, the main stimulation for your penis from her body is her
pubic bone. The problem is your hips are between her legs and your penis is
kind of just hanging there. Not great. You need soft, cushiony support to
stimulate your penis into erection. If it continues
If you try
all of the above advice and your problem still continues, you may have
chronic erectile dysfunction. See a doctor straight away. Schedule an
appointment as soon as possible. |