On Logic
Simply asserting that the laws of logic are absolute indicates nothing beyond the fact that the human mind works according to the laws of logic. Because the human mind is incapable of adequately processing information in a non-logical manner that is conducive to survival, we have no choice but to assume, out of necessity, the validity of the laws of logic. (In fact, the term we use for people who think outside of the laws of logic is “insane”, and the “insane” are consistently avoided or worse, locked up).

On Love & Sex
Love is a chemical imbalance in the brain. The positive psychophysiological arousal produced by the sex act is also a chemical imbalance. What’s the difference? Perhaps that there’s less potential responsibility attached to love because you can’t impregnate someone by loving them? But since we’ve already solved the responsibility problem with contraceptives, what’s more to be said?

People want mates who appreciate them emotionally and mentally, who pay attention to their soul, their intellect, etc. because desirable personality traits make individuals more successful in intra-specific competition. It’s a matter of (illogical) personal vanity that we pride ourselves in seeking, and perhaps having, “true love”.

Individual human beings are selfish creatures who wish to propagate their genes and memes. We are kind to our friends because they enhance our survivalistic success and share our memes. We are kind to our family because they share our genes. We are kind to our lovers because they promote our reproductive success. Marriage is but a subset of the human strivings for immortality, for certainty, for security.

Love is possessive; lust is not. Love can be very emotionally damaging; lust is not. If I were to choose between love and lust, I would not for one moment hesitate to opt for the latter.

Sex in and of itself is a stark act of nature; it is the emotional and cultural significance we attach to it that produces such ripples in our lives. It’s relatively easy to extricate yourself physically from a situation you don’t want to partake in, but it’s infinitely more difficult if you’re emotionally torn, not to mention much more painful as well.

       

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