Spencer Johnson, author of "Yes or No" (a great book!), provides a sequential map to better decision making. Basically, he suggests that we use our head and consult our hearts when we’re faced with tough decisions. Try it and see what you think.

In using your head, ask yourself the following questions:

Am I meeting the REAL need, informing myself of options, and thinking it through? YES or NO

Is it a mere want or a REAL need?

What information do I need?

Have I created options?

If I did "__________," then what would happen? Then what?

In consulting your heart, ask yourself the following questions:

Does my decision show that I am honest with myself, trust my intuition and deserve better? YES or NO

Am I telling myself the truth?

Does this feel right?

What would I do if I deserved better?

If the answer is "YES," then proceed with the decision.

If the answer is "NO," then you must rethink the decision.

Ask yourself, what is my better decision? Then choose it.

I hope this little decision road map helps you in making the "tough ones."