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Divorce

A Collection of Articles, Notes and References

Reference Chapter 2

 (Revised: Wednesday, January 12, 2005)

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8 "... Freely you received, freely give”.

            - Matthew 10:8 :: New American Standard Bible (NASB)

 

1 “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days.

2 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good,

4 treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God

5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.

6 They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over weak-willed women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires,

7 always learning but never able to acknowledge the truth.                                                                  

8 Just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses, so also these men oppose the truth--men of depraved minds, who, as far as the faith is concerned, are rejected.

9 But they will not get very far because, as in the case of those men, their folly will be clear to everyone.”

            - 2 Timothy 3:1-9  :: New International Version (NIV)

 

6 As he saith also in another place, Thou art a priest for ever after the order of Melchisedec.

            - Hebrews 5:6 :: King James Version (KJV)

 

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ANI. (Thursday, June 26, 2003) Parents' divorce may harm children mentally. India: The Times of India.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/cms.dll/xml/uncomp/articleshow?msid=45088

 

Parents' divorce may harm children mentally

 

ANI [ THURSDAY, JUNE 26, 2003 05:12:14 PM ]

 

WASHINGTON: Relocation of children after parents' divorce may adversely effect their mental and physical health, a new study has suggested.

 

The findings, according to authors, cast doubt on the current legal presumption that a move by a custodial parent to a destination that the moving parent believes will improve his or her life will also be in the best interest of the children that moves with them. The study is the first to provide direct evidence of the effect of relocation on children after divorce.

 

Psychologists Sanford L Braver, Bill Fabricius, and Law Professor Ira Ellman of Arizona State University conducted their research by dividing 602 college students into groups on the basis of their divorced parents' move-away status.

 

One group consisted of those in which neither parent moved more than an hour's drive from the original family home and the other consisted of students with at least one parent who had moved more than an hour's drive from the original family home.

 

Results show significant negative effects associated with the long distance (more than an hour's drive) parental moves by the mother or father, with or without the child, as compared with divorced families in which neither parent moved away beyond an hour's drive.

 

"As compared with divorced families in which neither parent moved, students from families in which one parent moved received less financial support from their parents, worried more about that support, felt more hostility in their interpersonal relations, suffered more distress related to their parents' divorce, perceived their parents less favourably as sources of emotional support and as role models and rated themselves less favourably on their general physical health, their general life satisfaction and their personal and emotional adjustment", according to the study.

 

However, the researchers concluded, "There is no empirical basis on which to justify a legal presumption that a move by a custodial parent to a destination she or he plausibly believes will improve their life will necessarily confer benefits on the children they take with them."

(Reference: ANI. (Thursday, June 26, 2003) Parents' divorce may harm children mentally. India: The Times of India.)

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Ahmad, Reme. (Tuesday, November 12, 2002) Syariah court 'biased against women'. Singapore: The Straits Times.

http://straitstimes.asia1.com.sg/asia/story/0,4386,154377,00.html?

 

Syariah court 'biased against women'

A seven-year-old divorce case has become a symbol for women's groups of the prejudice of the Islamic court

 

By Reme Ahmad

 

THE high-profile divorce case of a 36-year-old single mother Aida Melly Tan Mutalib has brought into the open the common perception among Muslim women that the Syariah court is sexist in its handling of divorce cases.

 

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The drawn-out divorce battle between Ms Aida and Mr Khairul has caught the attention of politicians and women's groups. -- MINGGUAN MALAYSIA

 

Her seven year battle with the religious courts for a divorce from her husband, Mr Khairul Annuar, 42, has now become a powerful symbol for women's groups who have for years claimed that the Syariah court and state religious departments are biased against women in such cases.

 

The Syariah court, at the centre of the storm, has denied the accusations.

 

It blames divorcing couples for abusing the court process with claims and appeals which delay such proceedings.

 

Registrar of the Selangor Syariah High Court, Mr Abu Bakar Daud, also denied that divorce cases were not handled with sensitivity.

 

'In looking for justice, the court has to give the opportunity to both sides to make claims and appeals,' he was quoted as saying.

 

He said most divorce cases were settled quickly.

 

Syariah lawyers, in defence of the religious courts, also said that the allegations were without basis.

 

Mr Mohamed Zaidi Zain, of the Selangor Association of Syariah Lawyers, said: 'Such an allegation is unfair to the Syariah court because the legal process to settle the cases takes time to complete its course.'

 

He said Ms Aida was also partly to blame because at the initial stage she declined to use a lawyer as required by the law and the court had to adjourn hearing her case.

 

The case has prompted calls by politicians for a revamp of the Syariah court to stop the injustice against women.

 

Taking up her case is a Muslim women's group, Sisters in Islam, which is among several organisations supporting Ms Aida's quest to get her divorce papers.

 

'Even ordinary people can see what has happened. We in the women's groups think this is another case of the religious authorities being biased and inefficient,' Ms Ruzana Udin, programme coordinator at Sisters In Islam, told The Straits Times yesterday.

 

Ms Aida has an eight-year-old daughter by her marriage to Mr Khairul, an engineer, who now has three children by another wife.

 

Despite their estrangement, he has blocked Ms Aida's divorce confirmation, angering women's groups which accused him of being unjust.

 

Ms Aida herself described the act as cruel because she cannot remarry due to the stalled status of her divorce.

 

Minister for Women's Affairs and Family Development Shahrizat Abdul Jalil made an indirect appeal to Mr Khairul when she said Muslim men should let their wives go free honourably if they could no longer live as man-and-wife.

 

'It is not right to treat the women as enemies to the very end when they are the mother of your children,' she added.

 

The case has prompted Selangor Sultan Sharafuddin Idris Shah to personally intervene by asking the state legal adviser to help Ms Aida get her divorce papers.

 

The ruler made an oblique reference to the case in a public speech in July that he had received complaints that Syariah court judges were biased against women.

 

The sultan said there were also claims that they were rigid in carrying out their duties.

 

Ms Ruzana, a close friend of Ms Aida, said the single mother was sad to have become a poster girl for what is wrong with the religious court.

 

Although the case looks set to be drawn out further, it is not the record case being handled by women's groups.

 

A similar divorce case in Kedah has been proceeding for 10 years.

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Reference

Bedi, Rahul. (Tuesday, October 14, 2003) Husbands may be beaten but not cowed. Australia: The Age.

http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2003/10/13/1065917343008.html?from=storyrhs

 

Husbands may be beaten but not cowed

By Rahul Bedi

New Delhi

October 14, 2003

 

A group that claims men are the weaker sex is demanding new laws to protect husbands against maltreatment by their wives.

 

With a guiding slogan of "Husbands of the world unite - we have nothing to lose but our wives", the All-India Front Against Atrocities by Wives claims to have 40,000 abused husbands as members in about 400 branches.

 

Police officers and judges are said to be among them.

 

"Women are not the only victims of domestic violence. Men suffer, too," said Ram Prasad Chugh, a twice-married activist for husbands' rights and the front's founding head.

 

A police officer said that of about 6700 cases of marital harassment cases registered in Delhi over the past year, 10 per cent were of women harassing and beating up their husbands. And their numbers were growing.

 

"The harassment is no longer one-sided. The difference now is the steadily increasing number of complaining husbands," he said.

 

Wives are accused of making false allegations against their husbands, which can take years to sort out in India's notoriously laborious court proceedings.

 

One wife was arrested recently on charges of hiring men to beat up her husband the day after their wedding before making off with all the wedding gifts and jewellery.

 

But the front has been accused of being "highly chauvinistic" and of getting involved in domestic squabbles to perpetuate the view that a woman's place is in the home.

 

The male-dominated police force has also been accused of exaggerating instances of "husband-beating", with feminists saying the concept has little to do with reality.

 

"A wife retaliating when she is being thrashed by her husband does not amount to husband-beating," lawyer Malavika Rajkotia said. "It's merely looking at the issue from a man's point of view."

 

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(Reference: Bedi, Rahul. (Tuesday, October 14, 2003) Husbands may be beaten but not cowed. Australia: The Age.)

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Reference

Hagelin, Rebecca. (Tuesday, October 01, 2002) The losing record of cohabitation. USA: WorldNetDaily.com.

http://www.worldnetdaily.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=29108

 

The losing record of cohabitation

 

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Posted: October 1, 2002

1:00 a.m. Eastern

 

© 2002 WorldNetDaily.com

 

Recent figures show that more than half of all couples who plan to get married live together first. No wonder today's divorce rate is so high.

 

The numbers are in: A new book entitled, "The Family Portrait" by the Family Research Council reveals that couples who cohabit before marriage are 46 percent more likely to divorce once they do get married than couples who don't live together first. The statistics also show that cohabitators suffer from more depression, alcoholism, poorer relationships with other family members, and experience less happiness in general than do married couples. Surprised? You shouldn't be. The bedrock principle of a man and woman having sex and living together only within the commitment of marriage was clearly stated long ago by a loving God who knew it would be for the benefit of us and our children.

 

For those who are quick to dismiss FRC's stats as religious propaganda, you should know that the organization neither conducted nor commissioned the studies that reveal what most people instinctively know, but consistently ignore: A stable family unit is the foundation for a stable society and for raising stable children. "The Family Portrait" is a "compilation of data, social research and polling on contemporary American attitudes regarding marriage and family." The book includes both current data as well as historical trends on a variety of issues including marriage, child care, unwed childbearing, divorce and cohabitation. Each fact is carefully documented and footnoted with the name of the research organization, medical facility, agency or polling company responsible for the particular statistic. Scores of various sources are referenced, providing the most comprehensive data ever compiled on issues of concern to the family. And the verdict is overwhelming. As Ken Connor, president of the Family Research Council put it, "The crisis in marriage and family is real, and its implications for America's future are chilling. No civilization can long endure without strong, healthy families founded on the inviolable institution of marriage as the lifelong union of one man and one woman."

 

Creating sound, stable families is so obviously the answer to saving our society from a litany of social ills and heartbreak that it's almost astounding in its simplicity. Yet, Americans, it seems, would rather have the government throw billions and billions of dollars in continued ill-attempts to fix what are at the core moral and personal problems, than we would to proclaim the truth and accept the personal responsibility necessary to be a part of the stable family units we all crave. Government policy endorses the broken family through handouts and endless programs, and levies penalty taxes against individuals who contribute to the stability of our society through marriage. Add that to the endless barrage of Hollywood propaganda (aka entertainment) that idolizes adultery, casual sex, divorce and homosexuality and it's no surprise to discover that America has seen a marked decline in the number of marriages that occur each year in every age group since 1970.

 

Commitment. Love. Integrity. Faithfulness. These are clear virtues upon which we must stand, both as individuals and as a nation. It's time for us to reach back for the sake of the future and restate those timeless values upon which our families and nation will rise and fall. There are right and wrong choices. When individuals make the right choices regarding making a commitment to marriage and to their families, they and society are better for it.

 

Still not convinced? As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. Here are a few more "snapshots" from "The Family Portrait":

 

  • Women are safer in marriage;
  • Children are safer in homes with married parents;
  • Children in homes with married parents are healthier and engage in less risky behavior;
  • Children in cohabiting households are more likely to be economically disadvantaged;
  • Children in cohabiting households are likely to have emotional and behavioral problems and experience greater educational difficulties;
  • Cohabiting households are more likely to be poor than are married-couple families;
  • Children from broken homes are more likely to engage in delinquent behavior.

 

America must promote and encourage the ideas of an inherent value in strong marriages and families if we are to survive as a nation. If we as a society continue to promote and casually accept cohabitation, rampant divorce, sex outside of marriage and homosexual "partnerships" as alternatives to traditional marriage, we can expect more poverty, more crime, more emotional problems and more social chaos. For the skeptic who needs more proof, there's plenty of it to be found in "The Family Portrait." It may be the best five bucks you ever spend.

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Rebecca Hagelin is the former vice president of communications for WorldNetDaily. Her weekly column for WorldNetDaily, "Heart Beat," appears every Tuesday and is characterized by its discussion of current social issues through the lens of the personal experiences and reflections of the author.

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Prager, Dennis.  (Tuesday, November 12, 2002) Conservatives need to be more compassionate on divorce. USA: WorldNetDaily.com, Inc.

http://www.worldnetdaily.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=29632

 

Conservatives need to be more compassionate on divorce

 

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Posted: November 12, 2002

1:00 a.m. Eastern

 

© 2002 Creators Syndicate, Inc.

 

Most Americans believe that for the past generation, America has been in a moral decline. And whenever conservatives describe this decline, they include the high divorce rate, along with crime and out-of-wedlock births, as a prime example.

 

I believe conservatives are wrong here.

 

By way of illustration, allow me a story:

 

Before having a daily radio show, I moderated for 10 years a very popular show in Southern California called "Religion on the Line." Each week, for two hours, my guests were a Protestant minister, Roman Catholic priest and rabbi (different ones each week), as well as representatives of virtually every other faith.

 

One night, the topic I chose was divorce – what is your and your religion's view of divorce? The Protestant minister spoke against divorce and noted that "people get divorced too quickly." The priest then said virtually the same thing, and the rabbi did, too (on virtually no issue was there ever such uniformity of views and rhetoric).

 

After each spoke, I asked the minister if he knew anyone well who had divorced. "Well," he said, "as it happens, my brother is getting a divorce right now."

 

"And do you feel that he is getting divorced too quickly?" I asked.

 

"No," the pastor responded. He explained that his brother and sister-in-law had tried counseling for many years to no avail, and that their home was a deeply troubled one.

 

I then asked the priest if he knew anyone well who had divorced. He responded that his mother had divorced many years ago.

 

"Do you feel that she divorced too quickly?" I asked.

 

"Not at all," he said, adding that for all intents and purposes, the divorce liberated her from a toxic man and relationship.

 

I then asked the rabbi if he knew anyone well who had divorced.

 

And, sure enough, his parents had divorced many years earlier, and he was convinced that it enabled him and his mother to become happier people because the home was so depressed.

 

This scenario is typical. Whenever people say, "People get divorced too easily," I ask them about people they know well who divorced, and I usually get the same response.

 

Now, of course, many divorced people should have stayed together (just as there are couples who stay together who should get divorced). But conservatives look foolish when they say that except for spousal beating no one should get divorced and that the divorce rates necessarily exemplify a society in moral decline.

 

First, a truly bad marriage is akin to life imprisonment, and innocent people do not deserve such a punishment.

 

Second, it only takes one person to divorce. Assuming that all divorced people sought their divorce is as untrue as it is unfair.

 

Third, when there are no children involved, a divorce's social costs to society are minimal and therefore unworthy of our attention. Furthermore, as a rule, it is far better for society to have people marry and divorce than never to marry. When people marry, they begin to grow up, and society needs grownups.

 

Fourth, regarding children and divorce, the effects of divorce usually depend on what happens after a couple divorces. By far, the worst consequence of divorce is the large number of fathers who voluntarily or involuntarily (because of selfish ex-wives or feminized laws) leave the lives of their children. When both parents stay thoroughly involved in their children's lives, sharing physical as well as legal custody, the adverse effects of divorce can be minimized, and depending on how bad things were prior to the divorce, a child's life can actually improve.

 

Let me be as clear as language allows. I believe that most marriages should never come apart; that every good marriage has periods of alienation and anger; that people must ride these tough waves and try to improve their marriage. I even believe that it is wrong to automatically divorce when one's spouse has an extramarital affair.

 

But I would not lump divorce statistics with crime and out-of-wedlock births as a barometer of social pathology. There are simply too many exceptions to the rule that people get divorced too easily. Like the clergy on my show, I feel that almost every divorced person I know deserves sympathy more than contempt.

 

If conservatives want to enter the divorce arena, we should change divorce laws to ensure joint physical custody whenever feasible and that people first seek counseling with professionals committed to the welfare of children rather than attorneys devoted to ruining the other spouse's life.

 

Divorce is a good example of where conservatives can show their compassion. Let's vigorously promote marriage but have no more knee-jerk condemnations of divorce. It is these condemnations, more than divorces, that are made too easily.

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Dennis Prager, one of America's most respected and popular nationally syndicated radio talk-show hosts, is the author of several books and a frequent guest on television shows such as Larry King Live, Politically Incorrect, The Late Late Show on CBS, Rivera Live, The Early Show on CBS, Fox Family Network, The O'Reilly Factor and Hannity & Colmes.

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Personal Review

If divorce rates are alarmingly high, then what is the need for this fancy show, “marriage” in the first place?

It is better not to get married at all. Also, a lot of money in these poor economic times need not be wasted for this temporary marriage functions.

12 “And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.”

            - Mark 10:12 :: King James Version (KJV)

So why go against the scriptures?

The sentence,

Furthermore, as a rule, it is far better for society to have people marry and divorce than never to marry.

Is objectionable. It goes against the scriptures.

A male and female get together. They understand each other, (compatibility of their attitudes, ways, behavior etc ) over a certain period of time. Then they marry. After a certain period of married life, having divorce for “ir-repairable differences” as reason, what is that? Marriage, a fun? Live with somebody for a while. After some dispute, then go and live with someone else. Moving from one person to another. Moving from man to man. Moving from woman to woman.

  1. What happens if divorce is banned?
  2. What happens if the concept of “Sati” is brought about?
  3. What happens if stoning for adultery is brought about?

Mediocre reasons for divorce will not be there. Man and woman will fear divorce, if they marry after good understanding of each other. Of course, nowadays two people rarely marry without consent or mutual understanding. Marriage will not be fun any more. Extra-marital relation will be something truly “dangerous”. A fear that will make a man and woman to re-consider petty disputes. Nowadays, that fear is absent, due to freedom, due to arrogance, due to ego, whether it be for man or woman. The social surroundings of laxity in moral values, (“this couple divorced”, that couple divorced”, “that couple going to divorce” “all are divorcing” “So we also divorce…” type of attitude) also plays a part.

 

I believe that most marriages should never come apart; that every good marriage has periods of alienation and anger; that people must ride these tough waves and try to improve their marriage. I even believe that it is wrong to automatically divorce when one's spouse has an extramarital affair.

 

Fear is a vital requirement. Excessive religious upbringing forces fear of the Lord onto the young. Without fear, of anything, naturally brings about deviation in moral values. Today the words “God-fearing” is just empty words only. An addendum in many matrimonial advertisements, to give a show of “religiousness”.

 

When people marry, they begin to grow up, and society needs grownups.

 

1 At the same time came the disciples unto Jesus, saying, Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?

2 And Jesus called a little child unto him, and set him in the midst of them,

3 And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.

4 Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.

5 And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me.

6 But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.

          - Matthew 18:1-6 :: King James Version (KJV)

You remain a celibate, to prevent “growing up” in the wrong manner!

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Reference

Divorce: The wait is not over yet. (Tuesday, November 12, 2002) Singapore: The Straits Times.

http://straitstimes.asia1.com.sg/asia/story/0,4386,154421,00.html?

 

Divorce: The wait is not over yet

KUALA LUMPUR - Thirty-six year-old Aida Melly Tan Mutalib's joy in getting divorce papers last month after a seven-year wait may be shortlived.

 

In a new twist, the Syariah High Court in Shah Alam has kept her papers in abeyance after her estranged husband, Mr Khairul Anuar, 42, filed an appeal against its ruling on Oct 22.

 

Malaysia's Berita Harian yesterday quoted Judge Abu Bakar Daud as saying that she may have to wait a while longer for the Syariah Appeal Court to issue its judgement.

 

''She has not been divorced officially yet,'' the judge said.

 

Ms Aida told the Malay daily she would check with the Selangor Religious Department which issued her the divorce certificate on Oct 25.

 

Ms Aida, a senior publications officer, sought a divorce in 1996 after she discovered that her husband had married another woman secretly.

 

Although she was granted a divorce in 1998, it was suspended when her husband filed for a stay of the order.

 

The divorce papers were issued only after the religious court declared the stay of the divorce order as null and void on Oct 22.

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Indian school for daughters-in-law restoring family values. (Friday, October 18, 2002) UK: Ananova.

http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_692420.html?menu=news.weirdworld.rockyrelationships

 

Ananova:  

 

Indian school for daughters-in-law restoring family values

 

A school in India is training young women how to become perfect daughters-in-law to try and reduce soaring divorce rates.

 

So far more than 4,000 women have successfully completed the three-month course at the Manju Sanskar Centre in Bhopal.

 

Asian News International reports the course is aimed at restoring family values and reducing rising divorce rates.

 

Ayaldas Hemnani, chief trainer, said: "Nowadays there is so much materialism and egoism that one doesn't see beyond oneself.

 

"We thought of imparting value-based education to young women so that they may present an ideal picture of a true daughter-in law who can take care of the families which they marry into."

 

Student Jyoti Bhavrani, 22, who is due to marry shortly, said: "We have been taught all kinds of values ranging from correct behaviour before marriage and the one that follows it so that we make our lives and those around us almost heaven-like."

 

Susheela Dayaramani, whose daughter-in-law passed out of the school, said: "I am very happy with my daughter-in-law.

 

"We are happy with whatever she has learned including how to take care of elders and youngsters in the family. She has won everyone over by her amiability."

 

Story filed: 10:42 Friday 18th October 2002

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Key Points

…how to become perfect daughters-in-law to try and reduce soaring divorce rates.

"Nowadays there is so much materialism and egoism that one doesn't see beyond oneself.

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Reference

Malaysian government tells couples to call each other 'darling'. (Thursday, June 20, 2002) UK: Ananova.

http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_611753.html?menu=news.weirdworld.rockyrelationships

 

Ananova:  

 

Malaysian government tells couples to call each other 'darling'

 

Malaysia's government is urging couples to call each other "darling" in an attempt to reduce the divorce rate.

 

Family development minister Shahrizat Abdul Jalil says the move would deepen people's relationships.

 

She says she wants people to call their partners by "affectionate names".

 

The minister told The Straits Times: "Those who have not tried it may feel shy in the beginning."

 

Ms Jalil said using terms of affection would help couples who'd started taking each other for granted.

 

The number of marriages in Malaysia dropped from 106,624 in 1995 to 91,990 in 2000 while divorces increased from 11,474 to 13,501 in the same period.

 

Story filed: 10:25 Thursday 20th June 2002

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Reference

Men complain about wives at women-only police station. (Saturday, October 12, 2002) UK: Ananova.

http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_688802.html?menu=news.weirdworld.rockyrelationships

 

Ananova:  

 

Men complain about wives at women-only police station

 

An Indian police station which is only staffed by women officers is being overwhelmed by men who say they are being mistreated by their wives.

 

The Deccan Chronicle says officers at the Mahila (Women's) police station in Vishakhapatnam have had to turn away men who queue outside to complain about their wives.

 

Most of the men say they are being forced to do household chores such as washing and cooking.

 

The police station is intended as a place for women seeking refuge from their husbands.

 

It's believed the men are coming to the station because they think women police officers will be more sympathetic than their male colleagues.

 

Inspector D Jayalakshmi said: "We are not encouraging men to lodge their complaints here since the station has been opened specifically to hear the grievances of harassed women whose number is growing alarmingly. We are more concerned with the problems of the women who are coming in large numbers."

 

The men moan their wives are spending their salaries "irrationally" and show no interest in taking care of children.

 

The paper says there are no records of men arriving to lodge complaints at the police station, which was opened in 1994, until late last year.

 

A police official pointed out no case of women beating up their husbands had been recorded so far.

 

However, faced with a rush of complaints from men, officers are now counselling wives to make peace with their husbands. Housewives are being advised to "to make adjustments" while working couples are asked to share responsibilities.

 

Story filed: 11:13 Saturday 12th October 2002

 

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“Thou belongest to That Which Is Undying, and not merely to time alone,” murmured the Sphinx, breaking its muteness at last. “Thou art eternal, and not merely of the vanishing flesh. The soul in man cannot be killed, cannot die. It waits, shroud-wrapped, in thy heart, as I waited, sand-wrapped, in thy world. Know thyself, O mortal! For there is One within thee, as in all men, that comes and stands at the bar and bears witness that there IS a God!

(Reference: Brunton, Paul. (1962) A Search in Secret Egypt. (17th Impression) London, UK: Rider & Company. Page: 35.)

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