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Tips for Muslim Youth
TIP 1: Make your intention sincere
All
work we do should ideally be for the sake of Allah. That includes the task
of bringing someone closer to Allah. That of course means this should not
be connected to arrogance, thinking you're the teacher and everyone else
should be lucky you've embarked on a crusade to save them. Guidance is
from Allah. Make Dua and make sincere efforts and remember Allah can also
misguide you if He wills (we seek refuge in Allah from that).
TIP
2: Practice what you preach
Not
practicing what you preach is wrong and you will lose the confidence of
anyone, young or old, once they figure you out. Don't do it.
TIP
3: Use the Quran and Sirah as Da'wah guides
Read and understand those chapters of the Quran which talk about how the
Prophets presented the message of Islam to their people. Read the Sirah
(for some good Sirah books) to see especially
how the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) brought Islam
to so many different people, including young people.
TIP 4:
Take the initiative and hang out with them
Take the first step and invite someone you may have spoken to a couple of
times to sit at lunch together, to check out a hockey game or invite them
over for Iftar in Ramadan. Also, share difficulties, sorrows and
frustrations. Help with homework, be a shoulder to cry on when depression
hits, or just plain listen when your friend is upset, discuss common
problems and KEEP THEIR SECRETS. There are few things as annoying as a
snitch and backstabber. But an important note: if the problem is of a
serious nature,(i.e. your friend is thinking of committing suicide or is
taking drugs), notify and consult an adult immediately.
TIP 5: Show them Islam is relevant today,
right here, right now
Young people may think Islam is too "old fashioned" and not in
tune with the modern age. Prove this wrong. Show how Islam is really about
relating to Allah, which any human being can do, anywhere, anytime. Allah
is always closer to you than your jugular vein and He hears and knows
everything. Encourage friends to ask Allah's help during tests, exams, and
in dealing with problems at home with parents and siblings. Also point out
how Islam relates to teenagers: Islam gives you focus and an understanding
of who you are and where you are going, which most of "teen
culture" does not.
TIP 6: Get them involved in volunteer work
with you
If you are already involved in the community, get your friend
to help out. Ask them to make a flyer for one of your youth group's events
or brainstorm for ideas about activities to hold this school year. This
involvement makes them feel part of the Muslim community and deepens your
friendship, since you are now working together on something beneficial for
both of you. Make sure you thank them for their contribution.
TIP 7: Ask them 4 fundamental questions
As your friendship develops, you will notice the topics you
discuss may become more serious. You may be discussing, for instance,
future goals and plans. Khan recommends four questions to ask that can
steer the topic to Allah and Islam:
a. Where
am I going in life and what would make me really happy deep down inside?
b. What do I believe?
c. Who should I be grateful to?
d. Did I get to where I am today without the help of anyone?
TIP
8: Emphasize praying five times a day before any other aspect of Islam
A
person's main connection with Allah, on a daily basis, is through the
prayer five times a day. Don't emphasize any other aspect of Islam until
your friend starts making a real effort to pray five times a day.
Emphasize the direct connection one has with Allah in prayer. If they are
facing a problem, tell them to pray, and to ask Allah for help in Salah
and outside this time. When possible, make it a point to pray together
during your "hang out time". If your friend begins to pray, that
is the first step to other aspects of Islam like giving up swearing,
treating parents with respect or dressing Islamically.
TIP
9: Support them even when they become more practicing
Remember, just because a person starts practicing Islam more
regularly, this does not mean everything will be okay from this point
onwards. There will still be hard times, difficulties. There may be
times when your friend may have doubts about his or her newfound
practice of Islam. Be there to reassure them.
TIP
10: Smile =)
Did you know the Prophet was big on smiling? But many
"practicing" Muslims seem to have "their faces on upside
down" as one speaker once said-frowning and serious.
Smiling,
being polite and kind are all part of the manners of the Prophet, which
we must exercise in our daily lives. If we want to approach others with
Islam, we have to make ourselves approachable. Smiling is key to this.
But note that being approachable does not mean being flirtations with
the other gender. There are Islamic rules for how men and women should
deal with each other which have to be respected. Dawa is no excuse to
have long and private conversations and meetings with the other sex, for
example. Set up a system where someone expressing an interest in Islam
is referred to someone of the same sex.
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