I'd always thought everyone else should come first and it was selfish to think of myself before others.
My first husband was an alcoholic and we separated because of his drinking and abuse. Probably like most people, I swore I would not fall into that type of relationship again. I did though. My husband died almost 3 1/2 years ago and I was so lost afterwards. I believed for most of my life that I was flawed and that was re-enforced at times by people in my life. So, I was not expecting to meet someone and get married again.
I am so grateful to the group because without there support I wouldn't be able to be myself with my present husband. They've helped me to work on my co-dependency issues and gain more confidence in myself. I have a lifetime of learning still do but I'm learning how to live and have fun doing it.