Just like any other game, the rules are just a little different from court to court, so we decided to post the rules for this court (or in this particular case king sized waterbed) so the visiting team could prepare themselves to play here.  In all seriousness though...We both believe that swinging can be a very enjoyable activity and have quite a bit of fun doing it, but most of the folks we've come across tend to agree that it is not for everyone.  If it is done for the right reasons by a couple in a stable relationship it can lend quite a bit of spice to your sex life and actually strengthen your bond. However, if you don't start with strong relation ship or the motivations are wrong then it can just as easily destroy whatever bond is there and ruin a relationship.  This set of rules has been slowly developed over time because of situations we've encountered or foreseeable situations we do not want to encounter, these are things that keep us on level ground with each other and hence keep our healthy relationship healthy.  As you read on though you should be able to catch on that most of them are derived from good old fashioned common sense and common courtesy and that they really aren't hard to remember or even follow.  And...without further ado here are our "House Rules", they are a must if you intend to play with us.

(These aren't in any special order).

Rule number 1:  NO MEANS NO
We don't really like to get into too many gruesome details up front because then things tend to get "scripted" and lack spontaneity and in the end aren't as much fun as they can be.  The solution to this minor problem is to basically say that anything goes (with the exception of Rule number 2) but everyone in the room has the right to say no at anytime.  As far as any one activity goes, if you think it would be fun, go ahead and give it a try, if it makes someone uncomfortable they can always say no and you can move on to something else.

Rule number 2:  SHE'S BI, HE AINT
'Nuff Said.

Rule number 3:  WHAT'S FAIR FOR ONE IS FAIR FOR ALL
We firmly believe that activities of this nature are best when fully enjoyed by all participants, but from time to time twinges of jealousy can infiltrate just a little and it may inadvertently leave someone feeling left out.  What we mean by that is that any rule that we (or another couple) bring into the bedroom must apply equally to everyone, no "she can but he can't..." stuph.  Here is an example of what we encounter most frequently: To some folks kissing is an act of love rather than just a sexual stimulus, and even though we don't necessarily think like that (we feel that love comes from many things and it doesn't hinge on a little tung action, anything that happens between us and another couple is strictly physical, including kissing, we still go home with each other), we can still respect that, but what we have seen are situations where another couple feels that kissing is acceptable if it is between the two women but it isn't alright for the other man to kiss the woman.  We sorta believe this is brought about by jealousy to some extent; for a married couple another woman doesn't really pose a threat to the marriage, however the woman may perceive her husband kissing another woman to to be a threat to her husbands love for her (or the man has the same feelings about his wife kissing another man).  When it comes to us neither of us really feel like our other half kissing another lessens our relationship any.  But when someone sets a rule such as "the girls can kiss each other but the guys can't kiss the other girls" how fair is that to the guys honestly, that means that the girls can have 'no holds barred' sex but the guys have to restrain themselves.  We aren't offended by a rule that says no kissing, but it has to apply to everyone equally, if kissing is too intimate to share with a person of the opposite sex that you aren't married to then it is also too intimate to share with anyone you are not married to.  (See the note below).

Rule number 4:  SEX IS NOT A SPECTATOR SPORT
For all the trouble it takes to meet a compatible couple and work around everyone's schedules to get together, then getting past those awkward couple of hours trying to get everyone out of their clothes and so on, once the action starts, it's time for everyone to have fun.  Neither of us are really into voyeurism or watching others have sex, you can do that alot easier by renting a video.  Now as far as visual stimulation goes there is something to be said for seeing your other half deep in the throes of passion with someone else, but to us that's just a fringe benefit not the reason we do this.  When we get together we're all there to play, nobody gets forced to watch, there is no such thing in our book as private time for the ladies only or anything like that, everyone gets to play the whole time, now if someone wants to kick back and watch that's up to them but no mandatory time outs, its not fair to everyone.  Incidentally for anyone who is just getting started in this lifestyle and considering doing this for the first time you may really want to take a moment to think about how you will feel and react to seeing your husband or wife that you love so dearly doing what most couples fear so much (having sex with another) so close to you...if that thought scares you rather than turning you on, this may not be right for you.

Rule number 5:  SEX WANTED, SOME EXPERIENCE PREFERRED...SINGLE MEN NEED NOT APPLY
We don't care if you can wrap it around your waist three times and that it's as big around as her leg.  This is strictly BYOG (Bring Your Own Girl).  ....no, wishing really hard and asking again won't do no good either.  We got into swinging because Angela was really curious about being with another woman, she found that she was really turned on by that and that some of the other fantasies we've both had, about threesomes and her being with more than one man at a time tend to work themselves into the natural order of things anyway since most of our encounters are with couples.  We do not want to be in a situation where only one of us can play with our new friends (see rule number 2) and with only a single male Jason tends to get a little left out so we just plain don't do that.

Rule number 6:  WE ONLY PLAY TOGETHER AS A PAIR, YOU GET ONE YOU GET BOTH
This boils down to a simple statement:  We don't cheat on each other, nor do we play with anyone who is cheating on someone else.  We will not consider playing unless we are both there, swinging for us is to spice up OUR sex life together a bit, not to fill some void or to keep one of us entertained in the other's absence.  We won't reconsider, so don't ask.  Right along with this goes some stuff about how we behave when we are playing also, we stick to the same room.  Now, what that means is that once the fun begins it stays where everyone can be involved, no taking half the fun elsewhere.  To us there are a couple of minor exceptions, everyone's body works just a bit differently, so there are occasions when someone wants to get up and go get a drink, smoke a cigarette, use the potty, or just plain take a breather...if that happens and one person leaves the room for a few moments, no big deal, no need for everyone to drop what they are doing and wait for them to come back, if something is wrong and you're leaving for some other reason then by all means, SAY SOMETHING.  We'd like to know if we did something wrong.

Note:  BI MEANS BI....AND IT IS NOT A TERM WELL MODIFIED BY THE ADJECTIVE "VERY" AS IT ITSELF IS ONLY A PREFIX OR A SHORT FORM OF THE ADJECTIVE BISEXUAL
Here's what we mean, Angela is BiSexual, that should speak for itself but apparently from talking to others this is a term used lightly in varying degrees with multiple meanings.  To us it means one thing she is sexually attracted to both men and women, when we are out and about she notices cute women's bodies just as much as he does, when we are playing she enjoys playing with the man just as much as the woman, so to her, from a sexual standpoint women and men are equally satisfying to her.  We have yet to figure out what other people mean when they use the term "she is very bi" when describing themselves...best we can tell either she is or she isn't, what does "very" mean??  Now, love and intimacy are another story, we have that covered, that's not what either of us are looking for, and she is definitely not looking for the female love of her life, just some physical fun with another woman.  We do this with a great deal of respect for each other and it makes our lives a little more exciting we really don't want to bust up someone else's relationship in the process.  We've met some really nice people along the way and made some really good friends along the way.....even ones where it never got into the bedroom.

Now that you've read this, if you're cool with our ground rules, we'd love to hear from you, our emails and messenger addresses are on our personal pages.  Just a note, this page has been up for quite some time and these are the rules we've always had and discussed openly with others, but if you're interested, recently we have added another additional page, that you are welcome to read, based on our discussions after meeting or chatting with another couple which contains some of our more private thoughts about encounters we've had....just click here to read on.