So regardless of what you choose--to be male, female or both; to be hetero-, gay, or both-- you need to chose in a sincere way and with an aim to do the right thing. These days people are brainwashed to believe "it's all relative; there is no ultimate right or wrong." That's a self-serving view, used by people to justify their own choices.
Morality is not obeying a set of rules. It's making a concerted effort to find out what is the right thing and to do it. The bigger part of that is recognizing and avoiding self-deception.
Counseling
Counseling can help. Yeah, I know what you're saying--counseling is a crock! Well, it certainly can be that. But there are a few good counselors.
But counselling really works when the energy is coming from you. You have to genuinely want to understand yourself. It takes effort. The counselor is just a tool for you to use to help understand yourself.
There are many bad counsellors, but there are good ones, too. You have to be prepared to screen several counsellors to find a good one. If one treats you like an object and not a person, find another.
One thing you can always do is to read a lot. There's almost no limit to how much you can learn about yourself just by reading--though few people take advantage of this.
Reading can bring you to the gate of understanding, which a counsellor can help you pass through. But without reading, you don't get to the gate, and counselling can't do much except give you emotional support (although sometimes that alone is needed).
In fact, reading is probably more important than counseling, but doing both is better still.
Enjoy life
Well, just so I don't seem like a wet blanket, I want to emphasize that's it good and important to enjoy life. It's true, I limit my crossdressing to part time. But I make a point to enjoy myself while I'm doing it.
There's lot's of other things to enjoy too--fresh air and exercise, a beautiful day, friends, music, etc.
Sometimes we blow our problems out of proportion. Enjoying the good things in life helps us get them back into perspective.