MAILING LIST CONFLICT MEDDLERS
The main hunting ground for cyber-stalkers are mailing lists, in whatever chat
venue they appear. Whether preying on children or adults, mailing lists provide a cyber-stalker with a never-ending supply of vulnerable people who do not know how to protect themselves against the stalker's agenda.When it comes to safety on mailing lists, in chat rooms, on newsgroups, or instant messaging, ignorance of cyber-stalkers equals danger. The primary danger is to
the stalker's victim, and the secondary danger is to the integrity of the list, and the tertiary danger is to truth itself.All mailing lists have one thing in common: to post personal opinions. While Net Rangers Worldwide supports freedom of speech, it is this same freedom that supports the platform on which a cyber-stalker can advance his or her dangerous agenda. Freedom comes with a price, as aware people already know, but that price doesn't have to bankrupt you. The key to stopping a cyber-stalker's scheme is to educate the list about the existence of cyber-stalkers, and the many ways the stalker operates. Net Rangers Worldwide encourages list owners, operators, and moderators to take the time to educate their list on how a cyber-stalker operates on lists. We feel that our site, and the resource links we endorse, provide the list member with the factual education they need to be informed and safe list members.
In another on-site report, Net Rangers Worldwide reveals how some cyber-stalkers use innocent third party pawns to attack their victims. These third party pawns are directly manipulated by the cyber-stalker, and a mailing list environment can become a nightmare for the stalking victim if the list manager has become a third party pawn, and is unaware of the cyber-stalker's true agenda. While many cyber-stalkers can be easily spotted, because they break the rules of list netiquette in pursuit of their victim, not all cyber-stalkers break those rules. Therefore, a list manager needs to be able to recognize a cyber-stalker by the nature and execution of the stalking plan, thereby preventing the list from becoming a battleground where the cyber-stalker can harm their victim without fear of admonishment or penalty.
cyber-stalkers create false conflicts to cover-up their agenda
Cyber-stalkers, whether doing it themselves or manipulating others to do it for them, like to create fake conflict and controversy about their victims. In order to cover up their stalking agenda, which they must do to keep the attack going, it is in a cyber-stalker's best interest to manufacture a fake excuse for his interest in the victim. Very often, they manipulate information to make it seem as if all that is going on, between stalker and victim, is a normal disagreement or clash of personalities that needs to be resolved. The truth is, there is no primary conflict at all, and the stalker's victim is an innocent person being stalked by an obsessed and mentally unstable individual. Read the on-site report on cyber-stalker profiles, for a deeper look at the cyber-stalker's agenda. These stalkers like to play the innocent, fooling many. General list ignorance can cause uninformed list members to take sides in a dangerous game meant to obscure the stalker's true agenda, through a subterfuge of smoke and mirrors.
ignorant list meddlers unintentionally help cyber-stalkers
But there is yet another danger to the stalker's victim, and that is the mailing list member known as "The Mailing List Conflict Meddler". These are the people who will post their opinions and judgements, about a cyber-stalker's activities to which they are not a direct party, even when their opinion is not supported by useful facts relating to the stalking activities. Because they are uniformed and can't conceive that a cyber-stalker is at work, they look for excuses to explain or deny the stalker's activities. They might even go as far as to suggest that the stalker and victim "work out their differences", which is totally inappropriate for the circumstances. It would be as inappropriate as someone telling an innocent rape victim to work out their differences with the rapist. People may be entitled to their opinions, but Net Rangers Worldwide firmly believes that this should be an informed opinion and not an ignorant opinion. When it comes to revealing the activities of a cyber-stalker, which is vital to stopping a cyber-stalker's attack plans, ignorant opinions can become unintentional weapons that further harm the victim, while creating protection for the cyber-stalker.
Most of the time, ignorant opinions are given with the best of intentions and no harm intended to anyone. The person has no other agenda then to share what's on his or her mind. Unfortunately, if the topic happens to involve the behavior of a cyber-stalker, and the ignorant opinion dismisses the behavior as something of no great concern, then the well intentioned ignorant opinion does do harm. The ignorant opinion not only harms the victim, by belittling their plight, but some list members might mistake the ignorant opinion for truth. Should that happen, then these same members wouldn't take the necessary steps needed to protect themselves from net predators. People are responsible for the opinions they express on the net, and ignorance is not an excuse for giving safe haven to a cyber-stalker.
the deceitful and dangerous list meddler
There is another type of "Mailing List Conflict Meddler", and this one has a deceitful and dangerous hidden agenda. Unlike the uninformed ignorant meddler, who means no harm but does harm, the deceitful meddler intends to do a great deal of harm. And unlike third party pawn's, who are innocent people manipulated by the cyber-stalker to harm the stalker's victim, the deceitful meddler is usually not directly influenced by the cyber-stalker. Instead, the deceitful meddler usually has ties to some aspect of the cyber-stalker's agenda, and inserts themselves into the thread with a series of calculated posts. To them, a discussion of cyber-stalker activities becomes an opportunity to advance their own selfish agenda, regardless of who they hurt or what lies they tell. These selfish agendas are usually self promotional, are connected to the person's own schemes of advancement in net communities, and reveal a complex internal struggle that involves the deceitful meddler in a series of on and off list conflicts with a variety of people. This person is trouble all around.
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This meddler plays a game of deceit whose intent is to undermine the truth about the cyber-stalker, while harming the stalker's victims. The deceitful mailing list meddler operates at several levels, some of them public and some of them private. Here is the deceitful meddler's profile and operating tactics:
They are driven by their need to play a dominant role on lists, especially those lists frequented by celebrities in their field of expertise.Be aware and informed about these dangerous meddlers, so that you and yourThey are list social climbers and list manipulators who have little integrity or moral conscience.
They will do and say anything to ingratiate themselves to these unaware high profile list celebrities, in their attempt to become part of that inner circle.
They have no loyalties, except to their own self-interest, and will support whomever serves their purpose the best.
They will betray anyone, if they think it advances their personal needs.
They will play one side against the other, if it suits their agenda.
They are often at the center of a controversy, to which they are the primary initiator, but to which they will never take responsibility.
They only care about themselves, although they'll try to get you to believe that they care about the welfare of others.
They engage in off list tactics meant to undermine people who don't feed their desires, while building support for themselves.
They engage in on list tactics meant to undermine people who don't feed their desires, while building support for themselves.
Their undermining e-mails purposefully omit facts and promote lies, as they try to re-shape people's perceptions and lead them away from a truth that doesn't support their selfish agenda.
They promote themselves as having knowledge about a cyber-stalking case, usually presenting themselves as a debunker, even though they are not directly involved in the case and have little or no valuable information about the case.
They usually have personal issues that present themselves as an emotional and/or mental instability. Alcohol and/or drug abuse may be involved.
They will carry a personal conflict from one list to another.
They will try to discredit those list members whom they target as someone who can catch and stop their dangerous game, and who they know cannot be fooled.
They may, themselves, be cyber-stalkers.
list don't fall victim to their unhealthy and manipulative self-serving behavior.
Never get into a flame war with a deceitful meddler, because that only feeds their agenda. Instead, calmly and meticulously expose their methods by using truth and honesty. These dangerous meddlers are in a constant state of denial, hate taking responsibility for their words and actions, and therefore don't do well in a truthful environment.
Researched and Written By
The Net Rangers Worldwide Team
