Early Boy-Girl Relationship will do you no good

This thing called �love� seems to matter to all of the youth nowadays. Every teen lives in search of companion. They are always searching of a relationship. But what�s the good thing about it? What�s the difference of it over friendship? Well, is it because of the fact that if you have relationship you have someone to hold on to. You are rest assured that you have someone whom you can share your laughter, success, sorrows and pain with. There is someone who is always there to support you every step of the way. But was it long-lasting? Was the level of affection remain constant? What if he/she find somebody else better than you? Especially teens nowadays, they don�t settle for less. They are always searching for better and relationship are part of that. Relationships are not always good. Sometimes, it flows not according to your plans. You maybe benefit from it but it�s your lost in the long run. That�s why early boy-gil relationship will do you no good.

First of all, it only steals your time and priority. Time is the scarcest resources in this world so we should spend it wisely. Our daily lives seems to follow the same routines of hectic schedules and activities everyday and since time is scarce, 24 hours a day seems to be so short and is not really enough to do all of that activities. In a relationship you are obliged to have time for it to make it grow fonder. If you add up relationship to those activities, the more insufficient time you will get. As a student, studies should be at the top of our priorities. But since you have relationship, you unknowingly notice that it corrupts the time that should be given to your studies. Like for this situation: you have to study for your exams for tomorrow, but since your boyfriend/girlfriend ask you out with his puppy dog face all around, then you ignore the fact that you might get failing grade in your exams but you can�t ignore the fact that your love one will get mad at you. Even if you say that you know how to budget your time well, but the point is you still give it a time and priority over other. And also, you are blinded by the �love� that both of you felt, together with those flattering words your partners said and it seems like there�s only the two of you exists in this world, and you forget that your friends and family need you too. You can no longer have time checking yourself and spending time with your friends and family. Most of all, you don�t have time for your ministry and service for god because of it. As a Christian and as a member of Christ�s family, we should always be available for God. We have lots of responsibility as a child of Him and as a member of His family. One of those responsibilities are reading His word, going to church, and pondering your ministry and fellowship and most of all � sharing His gospel. But how can you do that all if you are not available to Him because you�re very busy with those cheesy stuffs with your �love of my life�. Truly, relationship steals not just your time but also your priority and responsibility as a student, a friend, and as a son/daughter of your parents and of God.

Furthermore, it slowly turns you into pieces. The moment you let yourself to be with someone, you give part of yourself to him/her. You give him/her a piece of your heart and of your life. The more relationships you will have, the more pieces are taken out of you. The tendency will be the moment you give yourself to the one that is really for you, you are no longer whole. He/she will only receive a fragment of the whole you. Isn�t it better if you are whole when you find your lifetime partner? Whenever you experienced break-ups from a relationship, it will make wounds in you and take a part of your whole love. Then it will leave scars on you. And the more relationship you will have the more scars you will make. Isn�t it so embarrassing to offer a scarred heart to your lifetime partner?

Lastly, it reduces your purity. When you�re in a relationship, you are always prone to temptation. Love forces are very prevalent and it always attracts the two bodies. As long as you�re in a relationship your physical and emotional purity is at stake. Physically - especially nowadays people mistaken love from lust. These two things are very much different from each other. Most of them equate love to �sex�. Purity is no longer part of their vocabulary except for some who still value it. Purity is not just �virginity�, the whole point is the whole you. If you let yourself into a relationship, you are giving your partner a right over you. And that means, it is possible that he/she can do things to you that is beyond the limitations. Emotionally � relationships will not only lessen your purity physically but also emotionally. If you�re into a relationship, especially first time, you are giving your whole heart, love and attention to your partner. After all, the inevitable break-ups will follow. Then you will cry all night long regret and even curse your partner for that. There are many possible situations. But the whole point here is that emotional purity is the innocence of your love. After break-ups, you are no longer innocent from it, right? You will always learn from your experiences. Even if you gained knowledge about these stuffs from your friends like the pain of break-ups and the stage of moving on, but still you can�t understand it if you can�t experience it yourself. Then the love you give the next time you will fall is much lesser than before. Because what�s on your mind is the thing �heartbreak�, you are looking forward to this, and you don�t want to experience the same level of heartache by this time. Then the tendency will be, your lifetime partner will only just receive not your whole love but just the remainder of it. Isn�t it better that when you walk in the aisle where you will officially give yourself to your partner, you are physically and emotionally pure? And he/she will be very proud of you and deep inside you can�t feel guilt because you know for sure that you deserve it.

Relationship will really come our way and we can�t deny it. But you should not rush on it, you should just wait for the perfect time God has planned for you. If you�re always in quest about that matter, you will end up so devastated. Early boy-girl relationship will never be good because it is you who created it. Don�t create your own love story, let God � the author of great romance does it. It is much better if you spent your time and priority for the one God made only for you. And by the time you will enter marriage, you are worthy to be proud of because you are not just whole but also physically and emotionally pure.

Reach out

How wonderful is the life of being a Christian. You can enjoy God�s glory and blessings and you can hold on to His amazing promises. When everything seems so impossible, in God all things are possible. When you feel that nobody loves you, God will remind you that He loves you that much that He gave His life just to save you. When you feel weak and nothing, God is your strength. When you are tired, you can find rest in Him. He�s the source of our hope and everything. And most of all, you have heard the Good News - God is the only key to salvation, and you have been saved from the eternal condemnation. These things are just few examples of the privileges you will enjoy under the supervision of God. But as a Christian, you will not always savor all of these things; you also have this Great Commission. You are obligated to share this Good News. You should not be selfish in sharing this Good News to those people who badly need all of these things. Everybody needs Jesus, we all know that. Just what one author says, �No matter how contented or successful people appear to be, without Christ they are hopelessly lost and headed for eternal separation from God�. As a Christian, you also have responsibilities; you are responsible for the unbelievers who live around you. You are responsible for their salvation. Sharing God�s word to people is the greatest kindness you can show to them. And it would be criminal to withhold that lifesaving information to them.

But still you refuse to share your faith and the Good News even if you know all of these facts. You still have bunch of fears, or should I say excuses? Such as fear to be rejected, fear to be ignored, timidity, lack of self-confidence, lack of knowledge and so much more. But if you are really passionate to share the Good News, you don�t need to worry about these things, you just need to have faith in God and He will do the rest. Just what a quote said, �If there�s a will, there�s a way�.

Even if it�s a great responsibility, you can also find privileges in it. When you do it, you are working with God and you are representing God. And that�s so wonderful. You are helping God on finding His lost children. Watching this world right now is so depressing. Everyone is drowning in their own evil deeds and thoughts, selfish desires, lust, resentments and tribulation. And you, you who know the Good News don�t even care about them. What a shameful act! The Great Commission is not the Great Suggestion. It is not optional, it is mandatory for those who followed Christ and children of God. And ignoring this would be disobedience. You should not be contented in just watching the world drown and do nothing you should do your part, be obligated to reach out for them. Let them experience life driven by God.

How to Live Life?

Life has been and will be something so precious for all of us. It is more precious than pearls and diamonds, even if it won�t last forever. Still it is worthy to be valued or treasured. But how will you live life worthy to be valued and treasured?

First, is the lesson we can get in this story:

There was a time when all the villagers in a village gathered together to pray for a rain, because it has been a long season of drought in their place and their crops were dying. After they prayed, they all went out but there was a boy who carried himself with a raincoat, and everyone laughed at him. And later, as they wished, God grant them a heavy rain and they were all happy. What the boy has shown was FAITH, he never doubted God, and he was sure that God will hear their prayers and grants them a rain. In life, we should learn to live with FAITH. Even if we feel that it doesn�t make sense at all we should put our trust to God.

The next thing is the fact that we can get in our everyday living: We are not sure if we will still be living tomorrow, and yet we have all these plans and promises made for the following days. That�s HOPE! Though we have no assurance that we will still be living the next day but still we are hoping and believing we will be. We should always be living with HOPE. Keep believing that in every rain, there will be a rainbow.

Lastly, is this thing called �LOVE�. There are lots of definitions about this, such as: �Love conquers all�, �Love is blind�, �Love moves in mysterious ways�, �Love is like a wind, you may not see it, but you can feel it�, and many more. I think everyone has its own definition about this. But the best explanation and illustration of love is the �love� that Jesus have shown to us when He died in the cross just to save us from all our sins. He can do anything because He is a God, but you know what is the one thing He can�t do? He just can�t stop loving you! No matter how sinful we are, He still love us for who we are. Even if we fail to worship and shows back our love and adoration to Him, he remains to be faithful to us. God�s love for us can never be fathom. That�s the true meaning of love; unconditional and infinite. Life will be so good if you will spend it with LOVE.

If life will be spend according to God�s purpose with FAITH, HOPE and LOVE, for sure that life will be great and worthy to be treasured!